call me Carrie..
Well since Ive been doing these little relationship queries lately, I figured I was on a roll so why not keep going.
I hear so many people say 'I wish I could treat my significant other just as I treat my best friends'. sooo why cant you?
Why do some people find it so hard to treat their SO's on the same level as their very good friends. Is it because it's a completely different relationship? Dont we all want to be with someone who we CAN treat as a best friend? Where has the line been drawn?
I believe that for woman it's more of an emotional thing. If you start treating your SO like a friend, knowng you are in love with this person, you could start to feel that you arent in that type of relationship anymore. As women we sometimes feel we need to be the Perfect Girlfriend, shower our bf's and let them know every second of every day that we adore them. Contrary to this belief, most men would prefer you treat them like you did before you were dating. Why? Because its a hell of a lot less complicated.
A few reasons. #1, youre probably not going to question his every move, or get mad that he didnt call you back in 20 minutes. #2 you'll be a lot more fun when you stop worrying if he is looking at girls or not #3 he WANTS an independent woman. Not someone who is needy or nagging or consistantly insecure.
Sure, we all have to require some sort of emotional support in a romantic relationship. I am not saying quit showing your SO you care or treat him like he's your brother, but easing up on the relationship a little, if you feel it is getting strained, will give both of you room to appreciate one another while at the same time having seperate lives. No one, not even women, want someone who is constantly worried about the state of their relationship, or where it's going, or why he isnt calling or who hes with...the list goes on.
So women, and some men out there I'm sure, it's OK to treat your significant other like a friend! Have a life, let them have theirs and cherish the moments you have together as a couple. A bond as a friendship goes far, where the bond of an emotional dependency falls FAST.
I hear so many people say 'I wish I could treat my significant other just as I treat my best friends'. sooo why cant you?
Why do some people find it so hard to treat their SO's on the same level as their very good friends. Is it because it's a completely different relationship? Dont we all want to be with someone who we CAN treat as a best friend? Where has the line been drawn?
I believe that for woman it's more of an emotional thing. If you start treating your SO like a friend, knowng you are in love with this person, you could start to feel that you arent in that type of relationship anymore. As women we sometimes feel we need to be the Perfect Girlfriend, shower our bf's and let them know every second of every day that we adore them. Contrary to this belief, most men would prefer you treat them like you did before you were dating. Why? Because its a hell of a lot less complicated.
A few reasons. #1, youre probably not going to question his every move, or get mad that he didnt call you back in 20 minutes. #2 you'll be a lot more fun when you stop worrying if he is looking at girls or not #3 he WANTS an independent woman. Not someone who is needy or nagging or consistantly insecure.
Sure, we all have to require some sort of emotional support in a romantic relationship. I am not saying quit showing your SO you care or treat him like he's your brother, but easing up on the relationship a little, if you feel it is getting strained, will give both of you room to appreciate one another while at the same time having seperate lives. No one, not even women, want someone who is constantly worried about the state of their relationship, or where it's going, or why he isnt calling or who hes with...the list goes on.
So women, and some men out there I'm sure, it's OK to treat your significant other like a friend! Have a life, let them have theirs and cherish the moments you have together as a couple. A bond as a friendship goes far, where the bond of an emotional dependency falls FAST.