in a way.
Trust. How much do other human beings really trust one another? i find the concept of trust to be very interesting. I'd say the most popular quote regarding this idea is "Trust takes years to build and seconds to break". Completely true. But why is that?
I think that when it comes to trust, we believe until we are given a reason not to. Once we see someone for who they are, or at least who we see them to be after lying or cheating or what have you, our perception is completely changed. We feel a fool for not seeing things more clear, for not picking up on the red flags. We wonder how we got so caught up in someone who was so deceptive and how it was so easy for them to play on someones emotions, get away with it and never feel that maybe the truth was a better option.
My aunt and uncle split up in the early 80's b.c. he had an affair. Years later, and i mean years, were talking over a decade, they reconciled and started over. Although they had two children together, it still took that long to work through everything and realize one person had made a mistake and then taking the chance to make it work again. Taking the chance to believe the person is being honest with you.
When it comes to matters of the heart, trust is fundamental. Without it many will say there is no basis for a relationship. Many of us, if not most, have that jealousy emotion come into play every now and then. Where is the line between jealousy and just not trusting the person? Many times it's "I trust you, but not (insert person here)". Isnt that essentially saying you dont trust that person?
I have four very close girlfriends. Four. These are girls I can tell anything to, cry to, party with, trust with ANYTHING. It took years for me to allow these people to get close to me. I had a friend recently who betrayed me and I dropped her out of my life. It is hard for me to be friends with someone who cant respect me enough to be honest with me. I just dont understand how hard it is to tell the truth if you say you are truly a friend. Or, if you are in a relationship, and you say you care about that person, give them the respect they deserve by being honest.
A hurtful truth is far better than a malicious lie.
If we begin all of our relationships with a solid foundation of trust, and then continue that pattern, we cant go wrong. Wouldnt you rather know 100% that you can trust someone? That they have your best interest in mind, always, no questions asked?
It's hard to come by these days.
I think that when it comes to trust, we believe until we are given a reason not to. Once we see someone for who they are, or at least who we see them to be after lying or cheating or what have you, our perception is completely changed. We feel a fool for not seeing things more clear, for not picking up on the red flags. We wonder how we got so caught up in someone who was so deceptive and how it was so easy for them to play on someones emotions, get away with it and never feel that maybe the truth was a better option.
My aunt and uncle split up in the early 80's b.c. he had an affair. Years later, and i mean years, were talking over a decade, they reconciled and started over. Although they had two children together, it still took that long to work through everything and realize one person had made a mistake and then taking the chance to make it work again. Taking the chance to believe the person is being honest with you.
When it comes to matters of the heart, trust is fundamental. Without it many will say there is no basis for a relationship. Many of us, if not most, have that jealousy emotion come into play every now and then. Where is the line between jealousy and just not trusting the person? Many times it's "I trust you, but not (insert person here)". Isnt that essentially saying you dont trust that person?
I have four very close girlfriends. Four. These are girls I can tell anything to, cry to, party with, trust with ANYTHING. It took years for me to allow these people to get close to me. I had a friend recently who betrayed me and I dropped her out of my life. It is hard for me to be friends with someone who cant respect me enough to be honest with me. I just dont understand how hard it is to tell the truth if you say you are truly a friend. Or, if you are in a relationship, and you say you care about that person, give them the respect they deserve by being honest.
A hurtful truth is far better than a malicious lie.
If we begin all of our relationships with a solid foundation of trust, and then continue that pattern, we cant go wrong. Wouldnt you rather know 100% that you can trust someone? That they have your best interest in mind, always, no questions asked?
It's hard to come by these days.