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Today Facebook informed me I have been single for nine years. Actually, it informed me this morning and i have had a long, quiet day to mull it over and ponder how to celebrate it. Cake? Candles? At various stages during the day I unconsciously chose both, though not one protruding from the other, entwined romantically together. Although I have fallen in love once during this period , for three years, I have not been in a relationship during this nine year time. Like today's cake and candles, my recent experience of love and a relationship did not meet. I am not complaining. I could not be happier. I've waved goodbye to some people who've gone off to find themselves that couldn't find their own ass with both hands. They tried to make me go to relationship, I said no, no, no.... You've got to be at peace and not at combat with the cards you're dealt. Single is our natural human state, and as Joni Mitchell says in her paean to finding oneself , "Hejira" : " I know no ones going to show me everything, we all come and go alone, each so deep and superficial, between the forceps and the stone.." (although, as deep and profound as that is, the best song ever written about being happily single is The Waitresses "No Guilt"... Look it up)