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[stellaluna_]

I work very hard at having a positive outlook on things -- against many of my natural tendencies, since I'm also a worrier by nature -- and at being nice to people even when they don't deserve it. Especially when they don't deserve it, on the theory that, if they're having genuine problems or struggling with their own private unhappiness, maybe the

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[macslady]

I know the feeling. Especially what you say in the post over mine, about trusting other people's views over mine. That gets me really down too, sometimes, even though often these 'people' whose views I'm so concerned about I barely know/don't know at all. And I keep thinking to myself 'it shouldn't matter' but sometimes it really does bother me, and then I feel stupid because it bothers me, and it's just so frustrating.
I agree the kindness approach is best. I had this teacher in Year 8 (eighth grade) who once made me cry in front of the whole class (he was an RE teacher, and a complete asshole) and I hated him and his lessons, but that Christmas I gave him a card, and he looked SO GUILTY. And he was nice to me after that, he even came up to me about five years later at school, and was talking to me all nice like, so it just goes to show.
I work in a library, and I sometimes have to be nice to customers who I really don't like, and also I have to remember sometimes not to let things they say bother me so much - for example, they will have a complaint about the library, and they make it sound like I'm personally responsible for All That is Wrong With The Library Service, and it can be hard not to tell them to f... off.

Generally, I find that the periods where people's nastiness/my worrying over other people's views of me or things I enjoy pass after a while.
Just so you know, I think you're really cool. I really like the way you expres your views on LJ. Also, it is because of you I got into Torchwood and Leverage (you gave them such high praise that I just had to give them a go, and I LOVE them. I would never have started watching Torchwood if I hadn't read about it here - I would have thought it was too 'sci-fi-y' for me, but I freakin' love it.)

I hope you feel less stressed re all this soon, remember, there are a lot of us who do respect/like you, and this is just on the Internet. As for rude people, if the kindness thing doesn't work, well, screw 'em. It's the people you care about who matter most.