Weddings and the Census
So I finally stuck our census in the mail today, after having waited in vain for our "Queer the Census" stickers to come. On the bright side, I had (even before seeing this hilarious video with George Takei and his husband) decided that since the only thing holding me and Aubrey back from being legally married was the law, I would mark her as my spouse on the census form.
But that, on top of reviewing what I think is Improv Everywhere's most heartwarming mission to date (the Surprise Wedding Reception) has got me thinking. While I would, one day, like to have a proper "fancy" wedding and wear a pretty white dress, and have all our (chosen)family and friends there to celebrate with us, I know that's probably pretty far into the future, and to be perfectly honest, I've known for a while that we would be legally married long before anything wedding-like actually happened.
But now I've got to thinking about it, and there's a little more than the "can't afford to go to Mass. for that long" issue standing in the way of our legal marriage. It's that I literally can't imagine doing that, and taking that step, without one very special and very important (to both of us) person there. I don't know how Aub feels about it - she probably doesn't have much of an opinion on the matter, as I'm pretty sure that to her, the whole marriage thing is more about a) legal benefits, b) making a statement, and c) the fact that it's important to me. (don't quote me on that, though, she's sleeping.)
The problem is that said important person is all the way down in Texas, and just as poor as we are, and while I suppose in the event we're able to get the money for Mass. or same sex marriage is legalised in NY, that I'd jump at the opportunity as quickly as possible... it just wouldn't feel right without her there.
And that makes me sad. I miss my girl. And while I know the majority of the country would think it weird or inappropriate to have the Other Woman (for both of us, and she's a damn fine one, in my book) at your wedding, a good chunk of the country would ALSO think it weird or inappropriate to be in a poly relationship, or to enter into a same-sex marriage, so I'm not too bothered by that.
...there's really no point to this entry, except to say that I miss my Jaqui and wish she were here. :C *uses her obligatory Team TARDIS icon*
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But that, on top of reviewing what I think is Improv Everywhere's most heartwarming mission to date (the Surprise Wedding Reception) has got me thinking. While I would, one day, like to have a proper "fancy" wedding and wear a pretty white dress, and have all our (chosen)family and friends there to celebrate with us, I know that's probably pretty far into the future, and to be perfectly honest, I've known for a while that we would be legally married long before anything wedding-like actually happened.
But now I've got to thinking about it, and there's a little more than the "can't afford to go to Mass. for that long" issue standing in the way of our legal marriage. It's that I literally can't imagine doing that, and taking that step, without one very special and very important (to both of us) person there. I don't know how Aub feels about it - she probably doesn't have much of an opinion on the matter, as I'm pretty sure that to her, the whole marriage thing is more about a) legal benefits, b) making a statement, and c) the fact that it's important to me. (don't quote me on that, though, she's sleeping.)
The problem is that said important person is all the way down in Texas, and just as poor as we are, and while I suppose in the event we're able to get the money for Mass. or same sex marriage is legalised in NY, that I'd jump at the opportunity as quickly as possible... it just wouldn't feel right without her there.
And that makes me sad. I miss my girl. And while I know the majority of the country would think it weird or inappropriate to have the Other Woman (for both of us, and she's a damn fine one, in my book) at your wedding, a good chunk of the country would ALSO think it weird or inappropriate to be in a poly relationship, or to enter into a same-sex marriage, so I'm not too bothered by that.
...there's really no point to this entry, except to say that I miss my Jaqui and wish she were here. :C *uses her obligatory Team TARDIS icon*
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