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This is what i woke up to this morning.....
Dear Dick,
I am sending this to you as well because we wanted you to have a copy. My husband is sorry he reacted the way he did towards you this evening, but he was just upset at the way Marissa was treating our girls. He was tired also, as he works two full-time jobs 1.A pastor of a church 2. A factory job (40+ hours-a-week-manual-labor) He has to get up this morning at 4:30am. He was just so tired when he came to pick them up and just wanted to go home and get to bed. And, I, myself, have a disease, which frequently causes me to be bed-ridden, and when that happens, I am unable to pick them up.
Dear Marissa,
Now, we understand why you have the nickname "Stage Manager from Hell." You throw it around as though your proud of that name. I guess to resort to having such a name, your life must be pretty shallow...That's just my opinion. Maybe this is the first time someone has stood up to you, but someone needs to put you in your place. Your attitude tonight towards my daughters was anything but professional, and from what we have heard, you have treated others involved in other productions in times past in this same way. Why do you have this job? If you have to resort to such blatant behavior, I know as a director, I would seriously reconsider allowing you to have any part in my production.
At any rate, if you have anything negative to say about my children, you will kindly address those remarks to me or my husband, their parents. Might I remind you that they are children, as are you. Plus, your title is stage manager, you are not the director, nor has your title been named an assistant director. I don't really know what "stage manager" entails, but I don't think you are in charge of the play, Marissa. Whereas, Dick, the director, who is in charge, has never once berated them for leaving at the time they have been leaving or treated them with such indignation as you have shown to them tonight. In fact, for the most part, up until the past two run-throughs, they have been the last ones out of the building as they wait for us to pick them up. Christina has always called us to come get them after the practices have been over. And another thing, never have we been told they had to stay any later than 9:30pm. I understand the play is next week and it is getting crunch time, and if they had larger roles, and if you had been nicer to them, then we would have considered having them stay a little longer this evening.
I want to add that Christina has been having health problems herself, so her doctors have told us that we have to scale back her schedule and she has to pace herself. If you want her be at her peak performance for this production, than you need to allow her the rest that her body demands at this time.
However, I am going to be generous here, since, this is the last week for rehearsals, we are going to allow the girls to stay another hour, but no later, if you agree to treat them and us with our own schedules with respect. Let me just add this, you are very fortunate that they are homeschooled. Otherwise, there is no way, they would be able to stay any later as most highschoolers have to be up early to catch a bus ride. They are minors and there is a law that if a child is under 18 and in a work environment, an employer would get into legal trouble, if they forced minors to working later than 9pm. Of course, we realize that on the days of the actual performance, they will be staying late. That is very understandible and of course they will not "just get up and walk out" of a performance as you so unjustly accused they would do.
My children have been at every practice, faithfully, except when we went out of town. I am going to remind you that they are not principles in the play, they have minor roles. Plus, I might add, they have have been very commited and faithful to their rehearsals and practice times, where as most of your principle players, and we have eye-witnesses that can attest to this, have been very unfaithful and sporadic at best, in their attendance at the practices and rehearsals. If you want to be angry about someone or something that is not going right in this play, than I would suggest you take it out on those people instead!!! And as far as Tarah's "job" is concerned. She signed up to be a gargoyle, not a stage hand, as you and Dick have been employing her to be. You have, and again, we have eye-witnesses that can attest to this fact, plenty of strong, older teenagers or adults sitting around gabbing, that can be and are indeed signed up to be your stage hands. Are you going to put down on the credits part of the program that our daughter Tarah was a stage hand in the production as well as a gargoyle?
You threatened them tonight with kicking them off of this show. I would strongly caution you to step back and reconsider taking such an action, if you even have that authority, which I don't think you do. If you think that you can find a replacement for them at this point, then I think you are just plain naive. From everyone's opinions, Christina and Tarah both have been doing an excellent job and they have never once caused you any trouble. Whereas, we get reports about some of the actions of the principle players that are far from being cooperative.
One thing you have to know about Christina and Tarah both, is that they been blessed by and diagnosed by doctors as having exceptional memories. In fact, Christina's colleagues at the Mainieacs call her "the human data machine." So, there is no reason for you or anyone else to think that she or Tarah are going to forget any of their parts. If you have practiced everything they are to do, then you can be sure they will remember it. Tarah was in her first production this summer there at CLT and she did an excelent job and got many compliments on her professional performance.
I know this letter may sound harsh, but you were harsh to our children. When it comes to anyone picking on my children, my "mother hen" mode kicks in and it is my duty and privilege to defend and protect them.
We, and our daughters, are very thankful and honored that Dick gave them this tremendous opportunity to be a part of this production, but that in no way entitles you to treat them in such a manner.
Thank you for understanding,
Valentina and Dale Primm (Christina and Tarah Primm's parents)
Dear Dick,
I am sending this to you as well because we wanted you to have a copy. My husband is sorry he reacted the way he did towards you this evening, but he was just upset at the way Marissa was treating our girls. He was tired also, as he works two full-time jobs 1.A pastor of a church 2. A factory job (40+ hours-a-week-manual-labor) He has to get up this morning at 4:30am. He was just so tired when he came to pick them up and just wanted to go home and get to bed. And, I, myself, have a disease, which frequently causes me to be bed-ridden, and when that happens, I am unable to pick them up.
Dear Marissa,
Now, we understand why you have the nickname "Stage Manager from Hell." You throw it around as though your proud of that name. I guess to resort to having such a name, your life must be pretty shallow...That's just my opinion. Maybe this is the first time someone has stood up to you, but someone needs to put you in your place. Your attitude tonight towards my daughters was anything but professional, and from what we have heard, you have treated others involved in other productions in times past in this same way. Why do you have this job? If you have to resort to such blatant behavior, I know as a director, I would seriously reconsider allowing you to have any part in my production.
At any rate, if you have anything negative to say about my children, you will kindly address those remarks to me or my husband, their parents. Might I remind you that they are children, as are you. Plus, your title is stage manager, you are not the director, nor has your title been named an assistant director. I don't really know what "stage manager" entails, but I don't think you are in charge of the play, Marissa. Whereas, Dick, the director, who is in charge, has never once berated them for leaving at the time they have been leaving or treated them with such indignation as you have shown to them tonight. In fact, for the most part, up until the past two run-throughs, they have been the last ones out of the building as they wait for us to pick them up. Christina has always called us to come get them after the practices have been over. And another thing, never have we been told they had to stay any later than 9:30pm. I understand the play is next week and it is getting crunch time, and if they had larger roles, and if you had been nicer to them, then we would have considered having them stay a little longer this evening.
I want to add that Christina has been having health problems herself, so her doctors have told us that we have to scale back her schedule and she has to pace herself. If you want her be at her peak performance for this production, than you need to allow her the rest that her body demands at this time.
However, I am going to be generous here, since, this is the last week for rehearsals, we are going to allow the girls to stay another hour, but no later, if you agree to treat them and us with our own schedules with respect. Let me just add this, you are very fortunate that they are homeschooled. Otherwise, there is no way, they would be able to stay any later as most highschoolers have to be up early to catch a bus ride. They are minors and there is a law that if a child is under 18 and in a work environment, an employer would get into legal trouble, if they forced minors to working later than 9pm. Of course, we realize that on the days of the actual performance, they will be staying late. That is very understandible and of course they will not "just get up and walk out" of a performance as you so unjustly accused they would do.
My children have been at every practice, faithfully, except when we went out of town. I am going to remind you that they are not principles in the play, they have minor roles. Plus, I might add, they have have been very commited and faithful to their rehearsals and practice times, where as most of your principle players, and we have eye-witnesses that can attest to this, have been very unfaithful and sporadic at best, in their attendance at the practices and rehearsals. If you want to be angry about someone or something that is not going right in this play, than I would suggest you take it out on those people instead!!! And as far as Tarah's "job" is concerned. She signed up to be a gargoyle, not a stage hand, as you and Dick have been employing her to be. You have, and again, we have eye-witnesses that can attest to this fact, plenty of strong, older teenagers or adults sitting around gabbing, that can be and are indeed signed up to be your stage hands. Are you going to put down on the credits part of the program that our daughter Tarah was a stage hand in the production as well as a gargoyle?
You threatened them tonight with kicking them off of this show. I would strongly caution you to step back and reconsider taking such an action, if you even have that authority, which I don't think you do. If you think that you can find a replacement for them at this point, then I think you are just plain naive. From everyone's opinions, Christina and Tarah both have been doing an excellent job and they have never once caused you any trouble. Whereas, we get reports about some of the actions of the principle players that are far from being cooperative.
One thing you have to know about Christina and Tarah both, is that they been blessed by and diagnosed by doctors as having exceptional memories. In fact, Christina's colleagues at the Mainieacs call her "the human data machine." So, there is no reason for you or anyone else to think that she or Tarah are going to forget any of their parts. If you have practiced everything they are to do, then you can be sure they will remember it. Tarah was in her first production this summer there at CLT and she did an excelent job and got many compliments on her professional performance.
I know this letter may sound harsh, but you were harsh to our children. When it comes to anyone picking on my children, my "mother hen" mode kicks in and it is my duty and privilege to defend and protect them.
We, and our daughters, are very thankful and honored that Dick gave them this tremendous opportunity to be a part of this production, but that in no way entitles you to treat them in such a manner.
Thank you for understanding,
Valentina and Dale Primm (Christina and Tarah Primm's parents)