hospitals again...
so my mom had the surgury to get the feeding tube yesterday. the surgury went fine, the but the pain meds aftwords slowed down her heart so much that she coded and the had to inibate(sp? - put a tube in her throught to breath for her) her. they took the tube out this morning, and she's breathing with a Bi-Pap machine (mask over her nose that pushes extra air in when she inhales).
hopefully she can go home tomorrow afternoon.
i am very shaken up. she had a Do Not Ressetate order, that states specifically that we are not to use extreme measures to sustain her life. it states that this includes inibation and feeding tubes. since the hospital didn't have her paperwork last night, and she wasn't aware enough to communicate with the doctors, my dad made the descision to put her on the tube. she's the one who changed her mind about the feading tube.
now, there is a difference between life preserving procedures that keep you alive, but make you a vegetable, dependant on machines, unable to leave the hospital; and life saving procedures that make it possible for you to return home in more or less the same condition you were in before you showed up at the hospital. but still. had my dad not descided to have her inibated, my mom would have died last night. and i'm not entirely sure that's what she would have wanted.
now i have to make sure that we are all very specificly clear on what my mom does want, and i need to force my incommunicative family to sit down and talk about all of this, and make sure everyone is on the same page. what i hate is that they're going to act like i'm being an asshole, and that none of this is necissary, and that i, the youngest should sit down and be quite, because the adults are going to take care of the situation. aaand, i need to kick my dad's fucking ass to get some god damned hospice care workers at the house, so that we don't kill her in our Lack of Medical Training, trying to take care of her.
god dammit. why does my family have to be fucking emotionally incapable 'tards?
hopefully she can go home tomorrow afternoon.
i am very shaken up. she had a Do Not Ressetate order, that states specifically that we are not to use extreme measures to sustain her life. it states that this includes inibation and feeding tubes. since the hospital didn't have her paperwork last night, and she wasn't aware enough to communicate with the doctors, my dad made the descision to put her on the tube. she's the one who changed her mind about the feading tube.
now, there is a difference between life preserving procedures that keep you alive, but make you a vegetable, dependant on machines, unable to leave the hospital; and life saving procedures that make it possible for you to return home in more or less the same condition you were in before you showed up at the hospital. but still. had my dad not descided to have her inibated, my mom would have died last night. and i'm not entirely sure that's what she would have wanted.
now i have to make sure that we are all very specificly clear on what my mom does want, and i need to force my incommunicative family to sit down and talk about all of this, and make sure everyone is on the same page. what i hate is that they're going to act like i'm being an asshole, and that none of this is necissary, and that i, the youngest should sit down and be quite, because the adults are going to take care of the situation. aaand, i need to kick my dad's fucking ass to get some god damned hospice care workers at the house, so that we don't kill her in our Lack of Medical Training, trying to take care of her.
god dammit. why does my family have to be fucking emotionally incapable 'tards?