your love is my scripture
Nesting in "No Church In The Wild," which... makes me feel kind of odd. I usually stay away from Kanye West, especially when he gets featured in a trailer for a movie that takes place in 1922. (I was excited about the new The Great Gatsby movie until I heard it was being directed by Baz Luhrmann. And then I watched the trailer, and my skepticism turned to extreme wariness and disappointment.)
But, uh, to my surprise it actually has a few lyrics that I really like, in particular this line: no sins as long as there's permission. It's a variation on a personal moral code that I've toyed with since high school. There's a lot of variations, although the one I think I've encountered the most is the Wiccan Rede: "And it harm none, do as you will."
ETA: Actually, the one that I've probably encountered the most recently is the risk-aware consensual kink/safe, sane, and consensual code. These standards are typically associated with BDSM, but I really feel like it should kind of apply (or at least be considered) to all types of sensual play, regardless of how sexual or vanilla it is.
It also plays with ideas of (sexual) consent, which is something else I've been thinking about recently. And... I kind of like Kanye West's version a lot? (Words I never ever though I would say. 8|) I don't know, there's something about saying "permission" instead of "consent." Consent implies wanting, whereas permission implies allowing (at least to me), and that rings true on a personal level.
Please note: I am only talking personal level here. I haven't even started sorting out what this would mean on a societal level. I'm just trying to sort out my thoughts.
Consent raises a whole host of problems for the people who want to be surprised or enjoy being chased. For people who enjoy rape fantasies, or, for whatever reason, are incapable of giving consent, no matter how much they want the sex. (Note: I am DEFINITELY NOT trying to argue that we get rid of consent, because ahahahaha NO. The right to not be raped is something I'm a firm believer in. I'm just trying to say that consent has a few kinks that need to be worked out.)
In all probability, I'm probably just seeing meaning where there isn't any. I feel like I have a whole bunch of connotations associated with consent that I don't have with permission, and that kind of clots up the whole issue. (I also occasionally have some weird ideas about the connotations of certain words that no one else does, so. Uh. Yeah.)
But, uh, to my surprise it actually has a few lyrics that I really like, in particular this line: no sins as long as there's permission. It's a variation on a personal moral code that I've toyed with since high school. There's a lot of variations, although the one I think I've encountered the most is the Wiccan Rede: "And it harm none, do as you will."
ETA: Actually, the one that I've probably encountered the most recently is the risk-aware consensual kink/safe, sane, and consensual code. These standards are typically associated with BDSM, but I really feel like it should kind of apply (or at least be considered) to all types of sensual play, regardless of how sexual or vanilla it is.
It also plays with ideas of (sexual) consent, which is something else I've been thinking about recently. And... I kind of like Kanye West's version a lot? (Words I never ever though I would say. 8|) I don't know, there's something about saying "permission" instead of "consent." Consent implies wanting, whereas permission implies allowing (at least to me), and that rings true on a personal level.
Please note: I am only talking personal level here. I haven't even started sorting out what this would mean on a societal level. I'm just trying to sort out my thoughts.
Consent raises a whole host of problems for the people who want to be surprised or enjoy being chased. For people who enjoy rape fantasies, or, for whatever reason, are incapable of giving consent, no matter how much they want the sex. (Note: I am DEFINITELY NOT trying to argue that we get rid of consent, because ahahahaha NO. The right to not be raped is something I'm a firm believer in. I'm just trying to say that consent has a few kinks that need to be worked out.)
In all probability, I'm probably just seeing meaning where there isn't any. I feel like I have a whole bunch of connotations associated with consent that I don't have with permission, and that kind of clots up the whole issue. (I also occasionally have some weird ideas about the connotations of certain words that no one else does, so. Uh. Yeah.)