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Jul 20, 2009 15:54

On July 9, I turned 27. I got a text from David in the morning, asking if I wanted to do lunch and if there were any nice restaurants in close proximity of my office. Considering that he is the sommelier for four of the nicest restaurants in Prague, I responded no. We met anyway, and he brought me raspberries, kissed me on the lips when he saw ( Read more... )

david, future, moving, relationship, prague, chris, weight loss

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letmeburyem July 20 2009, 14:18:10 UTC

Would you really consider living with someone that won't even date you? How is that a good idea?

And if it's not your weight, it's going to be something else that he'll want to change. Do a better job on the dishes, or he'll move out. Shave more regularly or he'll leave. Learn to cook better or...

Stop making plans around the men in your life. Make plans around YOU.

squeakywheel July 20 2009, 14:22:28 UTC

Didn't you have a bet about your weight with Paul? Or am I thinking about someone else (my sister had something with her ex-husband so perhaps I'm confusing you)?

letmeburyem July 20 2009, 16:42:03 UTC

I had a bet with Magic Dave- he was going to get me breast implants.

No bet with Paul. He has actually taught me a lot about eating healthy.

etoilepb July 20 2009, 14:31:50 UTC

Stop making plans around the men in your life. Make plans around YOU.

Amen. Couldn't have said it better.

squeakywheel July 20 2009, 14:37:44 UTC

I guess I'm not entirely clear on how to do that. When I take men out of the equation, I don't feel a strong pull in any direction. When I have time alone, I'm not ambitious. I laze around. There isn't that one thing in life that I REALLY want to do.

etoilepb July 20 2009, 14:49:35 UTC

The secret is? That's really pretty normal.

Now granted, I've never met you in person and I've never met any of these men, so my point of view is woefully lopsided. But as far as I can tell, other than moving to Prague, you've pretty much spent the last, what, five years? Entirely focusing your every action and being around what will please Some Guy most. And the guys change (I definitely give you credit where credit is due for managing to get the really bad ones out of your life), but it seems that you have no internal sense of Kate-ness. You try to become whatever the man of the moment wants most. And when you've got the right partner, what he wants most should be whatever you yourself are innately.

Maybe what you really need for now is just a very time-consuming hobby. Archery classes or an MMORPG or something.

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