This is the story of the boys who loved you
I don't know what to do.
Tim has given me an ultimatum. Either we try a relationship together, or he'll move on and explore other dating possibilities. I completely understand that he doesn't want to be sitting in some limbo state, waiting for me to decide if I like him enough to try a relationship with him, but I really didn't expect this from him and it kind of hurts. I mean, I've told him about pretty much everything that happened with Phil and everything that's happened since. He knows how hurt I was and how hard it's going to be for me to be relationship-ready again.
And I like him. I really do, I care about him a lot. I'm just not sure, and that's scary. I don't feel like I know him well enough. I mean, every relationship I've had has pretty much been ruined by the fact that we didn't know each other well enough and one or the other of us discovered something(s), as time progressed, that we didn't like about the other person. I just need more time before I feel comfortable with it. I know he'll understand, and he'll still be my friend, but it's just not fair that he's asking me to do this! I really, really care about Tim and I don't want to lose my chance with him, but I also don't want to take it too soon and ruin it.
And Brian. Brian wants to see me again and I know I should give him another chance or two. I mean, on Tough Love there's the meet, then a date and then a make-or-break date, so I should offer Brian the same chances, right? No snide comments, please...I think Steve's a genius. Anyway, I do like him; we had fun last Friday. I just feel like it over-complicates things, and right now (although this is not a constant feeling) I don't feel like putting forth the effort of arranging dates and finding things to do; that and I have no money for such things. And obviously I couldn't see him if I decided to date Tim.
Gahh. I mean, I understand that these guys who are interested in me need to be addressed somehow, but this is the last thing I wanted to be concerned with right now. I just want to take my time and get to know someone before dating them, for God's sake.
Is it too much to ask, to know that I'm getting what I want instead of hoping that I'll want what I have?
Tim has given me an ultimatum. Either we try a relationship together, or he'll move on and explore other dating possibilities. I completely understand that he doesn't want to be sitting in some limbo state, waiting for me to decide if I like him enough to try a relationship with him, but I really didn't expect this from him and it kind of hurts. I mean, I've told him about pretty much everything that happened with Phil and everything that's happened since. He knows how hurt I was and how hard it's going to be for me to be relationship-ready again.
And I like him. I really do, I care about him a lot. I'm just not sure, and that's scary. I don't feel like I know him well enough. I mean, every relationship I've had has pretty much been ruined by the fact that we didn't know each other well enough and one or the other of us discovered something(s), as time progressed, that we didn't like about the other person. I just need more time before I feel comfortable with it. I know he'll understand, and he'll still be my friend, but it's just not fair that he's asking me to do this! I really, really care about Tim and I don't want to lose my chance with him, but I also don't want to take it too soon and ruin it.
And Brian. Brian wants to see me again and I know I should give him another chance or two. I mean, on Tough Love there's the meet, then a date and then a make-or-break date, so I should offer Brian the same chances, right? No snide comments, please...I think Steve's a genius. Anyway, I do like him; we had fun last Friday. I just feel like it over-complicates things, and right now (although this is not a constant feeling) I don't feel like putting forth the effort of arranging dates and finding things to do; that and I have no money for such things. And obviously I couldn't see him if I decided to date Tim.
Gahh. I mean, I understand that these guys who are interested in me need to be addressed somehow, but this is the last thing I wanted to be concerned with right now. I just want to take my time and get to know someone before dating them, for God's sake.
Is it too much to ask, to know that I'm getting what I want instead of hoping that I'll want what I have?