Trans/Leather stuff has got me all riled up...
I'm still on my ship... will be till the 4th of June... but that's not what has me all riled up.
I'm really coming to understand more about how my parents must feel. It's very strange.
As the relationship with myself and Vic grows, it's becoming more and more Father and son... not that the lust has been fading it's just that the father in me has been coming more and more to the surface.
And with the transboy/bioboy issue becoming more and more present I'm starting to see how parents must feel when their child feels like they aren't being accepted by those they look up to.
Which puts me at an awkward place.
I'm not Vic's "Daddy" which puts pressure on me to not take a more proactive stance on the subject. At the same time, I'm conflicted as to just what I could do if I even was.
I believe firmly that all Vic needs to do is be himself. People will see Vic the way I do, which is the way many people close to Vic do. On that point, I believe that the biggest final task Vic could undergo mentally is to own his place as a leatherboy, because really it seems to me like it's sitting in front of him waiting to be picked up.
And from that perspective all Vic needs to do to face down this issue is to stand up proudly and be himself, a leatherboy. Trans or not doesn't matter, and if Vic were to do that I believe that because of Vic's vast other positive qualities (the same qualities that make me certain that the title and position are there waiting for him) he would gain acceptance whole cloth by the vast majority of people in that group. (Who I imagine are saying similar things with regards to it.)
But the issue isn't Vic specific, it's the bylaws of a certain group(s) that require you be a bio man before they accept you as a member.
And that issue has me steaming mad.
For a group of people who have been so radically oppressed to turn around and promote prejudice... well the father/revolutionary in me is outraged.
I'm still reviewing information and identifying tactics, I don't know yet how I'll deal with this. Or if I even have a real right to make it my fight. But now isn't the time to make those choices, when I have more information... maybe a more stable ground to fight from. Then.
All comments are welcome, all information, points of view, are welcome.
I'm really coming to understand more about how my parents must feel. It's very strange.
As the relationship with myself and Vic grows, it's becoming more and more Father and son... not that the lust has been fading it's just that the father in me has been coming more and more to the surface.
And with the transboy/bioboy issue becoming more and more present I'm starting to see how parents must feel when their child feels like they aren't being accepted by those they look up to.
Which puts me at an awkward place.
I'm not Vic's "Daddy" which puts pressure on me to not take a more proactive stance on the subject. At the same time, I'm conflicted as to just what I could do if I even was.
I believe firmly that all Vic needs to do is be himself. People will see Vic the way I do, which is the way many people close to Vic do. On that point, I believe that the biggest final task Vic could undergo mentally is to own his place as a leatherboy, because really it seems to me like it's sitting in front of him waiting to be picked up.
And from that perspective all Vic needs to do to face down this issue is to stand up proudly and be himself, a leatherboy. Trans or not doesn't matter, and if Vic were to do that I believe that because of Vic's vast other positive qualities (the same qualities that make me certain that the title and position are there waiting for him) he would gain acceptance whole cloth by the vast majority of people in that group. (Who I imagine are saying similar things with regards to it.)
But the issue isn't Vic specific, it's the bylaws of a certain group(s) that require you be a bio man before they accept you as a member.
And that issue has me steaming mad.
For a group of people who have been so radically oppressed to turn around and promote prejudice... well the father/revolutionary in me is outraged.
I'm still reviewing information and identifying tactics, I don't know yet how I'll deal with this. Or if I even have a real right to make it my fight. But now isn't the time to make those choices, when I have more information... maybe a more stable ground to fight from. Then.
All comments are welcome, all information, points of view, are welcome.