I appreciate that. I don't know what is wrong with us though. Well, nothing is wrong with us, actually. Something is wrong with me. A month and a half ago, her and I rarely fought. Then, it started happening all the time. All of a sudden, I felt and I still feel like I am going into these fights alone.
I don't know what I am doing wrong. This is my first real relationship and I guess after 2 years, I still haven't learned the rules. I don't know when I am messing up.
If anything, all of my mistakes have helped me realize how important this relationship is to me. Every time I get hung up on, I see how hurt I am and I know that I love her. Every time I get told to go away, I understand how much I would miss her if things were to... collapse. I don't want that to happen. I am terrified of that happening. I literally feel like my life is falling apart.
I wish there was something I could do. I don't care how difficult it would be, I would do it in a heartbeat. Well, I would at least make an effort. I can't change myself. I am who I am. If there is something wrong with me, I am going to use every ounce of my ability to try and fix it. I have said a thousand times that my biggest flaw is that I am always trying to make people happy. People take advantage of me and I go along with it because it makes them happy. Well, one of the most important people is unhappy right now, and I'd like to know what I can do to change that. I just don't know where to begin.
I hope you've told her all of this..though I'm sure you have. I don't know what's going on with you two, but it can't all be your fault, Craig. You genuinely care about her and everyone in the world--including her--knows you wouldn't ever try to hurt her. You both need to talk this out, and she needs to talk back. If you're this willing to do what it takes, she needs to be too. With communication, willingness, and understanding, you two can fix anything. Don't blame rough times all on yourself. A relationship is two people; two people in a relationship need to talk problems out.
I don't know what I am doing wrong. This is my first real relationship and I guess after 2 years, I still haven't learned the rules. I don't know when I am messing up.
If anything, all of my mistakes have helped me realize how important this relationship is to me. Every time I get hung up on, I see how hurt I am and I know that I love her. Every time I get told to go away, I understand how much I would miss her if things were to... collapse. I don't want that to happen. I am terrified of that happening. I literally feel like my life is falling apart.
I wish there was something I could do. I don't care how difficult it would be, I would do it in a heartbeat. Well, I would at least make an effort. I can't change myself. I am who I am. If there is something wrong with me, I am going to use every ounce of my ability to try and fix it. I have said a thousand times that my biggest flaw is that I am always trying to make people happy. People take advantage of me and I go along with it because it makes them happy. Well, one of the most important people is unhappy right now, and I'd like to know what I can do to change that. I just don't know where to begin.
Thanks for listening, or reading rather.
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I don't know what's going on with you two, but it can't all be your fault, Craig. You genuinely care about her and everyone in the world--including her--knows you wouldn't ever try to hurt her. You both need to talk this out, and she needs to talk back. If you're this willing to do what it takes, she needs to be too. With communication, willingness, and understanding, you two can fix anything. Don't blame rough times all on yourself. A relationship is two people; two people in a relationship need to talk problems out.
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