Cold Feet

[spaghettify]

It really sucks that now I'm having serious second thoughts (again) about going into medicine. Except this time it's not so much my own worries that have brought this bought of fear on, but the concerns of others

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Poor Advice

[dukeofwulf]

I think I'll try to help you think, at least, since I was in your situation a few years back and I think I made the right decision in the end.

I hate to say it, but if you're questioning your choices this heavily at this late point, you're probably going the wrong way. I'd guess it's your sense of reason trying to get you on a path to timely graduation that's keeping you in place. But you can't spend your life in a career you hate, so now's the time to take a stand.

On the other hand, I believe this was a goal you've had for a long time, so maybe this is temporary disillusionment. It mostly depends on how long you've been questioning your decisions, and is a judgment only you can make.

Anyway, maybe I should actually be constructive...
the best thing you can do right now to help you with your decision is talk to as many people as you can. Seriously. Go into the department and start a conversation with anyone you see, as long as they're not running. It may feel awkward, but I find that many people are flattered to be the person you came to for career advice. Just ask them why they chose their field, what they like and dislike, whatever; just get them talking.

I found that once I chose my current field, talking to people in the department helped reassure me that I was in the right place; I wished I had thought of it sooner.

I hope that helps, and I hope that you make a decision that makes you happy.

PS: you're my first post since 02-27-06. I've been gone a while. :)

Re: Poor Advice

[spaghettify]

I'm sorry I never commented back. I guess I got really busy thinking and neglected any response. Your advice has probbly been the most helpful because it was what I think I was looking for - someone to say it's ok to change your mind but it has to be because you want to change it. It seems amazing that so few would have suggested that!

Anyway I'm sticking with the plan. I actually did exactly what I need to do, although a little late in the process...I started volunteering in the hospital. I've found I still like it. I want it, so yeah...I'm still weary of things in medicine (typical 60-80 work week), but I think I figured out where my main concern was and where all those fears were stemming from - fear of rejection and failure. Entirely stupid motivations to shy from a field I like, but there you go - we're all human right?

Anyway, thanks again for the advice...it made me think. And i'm glad that I pulled you our of the darkness...too bad i slipped away for so long myself! I need to try to post here more. :)