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I wasn't sure at first what I wanted to talk about tonight, but I happened to be reading through my facebook wall just now and I came across a friend's post with this article about the concept of forgiving an abusive parent and why you should not feel an obligation to do so as they age.
The stories here are not nearly as bad as what I knew growing up, but I've often thought about this myself and wondered what I would do when I found myself in that situation. My dad's health is declining, it's a good possibility that one of his lungs no longer functions correctly, and it's entirely likely that he will have to go into retirement before the age of 65 and be forced to live on oxygen for the rest of his life.
Of his children who still live in the state, I'm the only one who doesn't have a spouse or a kid, and I suspect I'll be the one called upon to try and help care for him when things finally do go south for worse. I've decided a long time ago that I don't want to be put in this position. I would rather he receive home care from a registered nurse, and I would rather not be made to wait on him hand and foot like I know my mom probably will.
My mom is another story. I had no problems living with her. She was a sort of shelter from my dad, but she was never strong enough to leave him though the fights were bad and I often woke up at night from his screaming, wondering when I was going to hear her screaming back as he was hurting/killing her. When her luck starts to run out, I'll be more than willing to help her.
Anyway, tl;dr, long story short, it's a good read. Anyone who has had a bad childhood needs to read this.
... Also, I just realized a new level of LJ shittiness. The option to preview your own goddamn post is apparently a paid feature. If I'm wrong and I'm just missing a setting, someone please enlighten me. Until then, what the shit? Who all has a journal/blog on another site they'd be willing to let me follow?
The stories here are not nearly as bad as what I knew growing up, but I've often thought about this myself and wondered what I would do when I found myself in that situation. My dad's health is declining, it's a good possibility that one of his lungs no longer functions correctly, and it's entirely likely that he will have to go into retirement before the age of 65 and be forced to live on oxygen for the rest of his life.
Of his children who still live in the state, I'm the only one who doesn't have a spouse or a kid, and I suspect I'll be the one called upon to try and help care for him when things finally do go south for worse. I've decided a long time ago that I don't want to be put in this position. I would rather he receive home care from a registered nurse, and I would rather not be made to wait on him hand and foot like I know my mom probably will.
My mom is another story. I had no problems living with her. She was a sort of shelter from my dad, but she was never strong enough to leave him though the fights were bad and I often woke up at night from his screaming, wondering when I was going to hear her screaming back as he was hurting/killing her. When her luck starts to run out, I'll be more than willing to help her.
Anyway, tl;dr, long story short, it's a good read. Anyone who has had a bad childhood needs to read this.
... Also, I just realized a new level of LJ shittiness. The option to preview your own goddamn post is apparently a paid feature. If I'm wrong and I'm just missing a setting, someone please enlighten me. Until then, what the shit? Who all has a journal/blog on another site they'd be willing to let me follow?