A Rant and a Vent
There aren't a lot of people I can talk to about my job given confidentiality and sensitivity, etc. but I can say this ... it seems no matter where you work or what you do, HR will never have your back. They say that they will but that is as long as it takes to get you out of their office.
My current frustration is that we are told to utilize the receptionist and the occasional overflow that we have within the firm to assist us. In three of the assistant's cases here, myself included, we are overloaded but more specifically I am overloaded AND work for three people, AND have to clean up the prior assistant's mess. I am holding my own by a thread,...and yet, if I ask for help, I am advised that they "can't" for this reason or that, or that "someone else can do it, wait for them" and in today's case it was me asking for help, receiving it, attending the person who could help me but HR arriving on scene to advise to "give it to her tomorrow".
So. What you're saying is I can get help, but only if I wait four days. Well, I'll do it myself then. You wonder why people are backlogged? it's because you definitely do NOT have our backs. You've got yours; and good for you as I believe most people are out for ourselves, but when you're in HR ... don't you have to consider the options?
I took Friday off. I had to. I woke up Friday morning with cramps, a migraine, sneezing, and I just couldn't do it. I added in my head how many days I actually take off and decided it was a reasonable reason to be home. Plus Greg and I had a huge argument about Thanksgiving the night before so I just needed time. His family isn't hosting it this year and it turned into him having a huge fit because he has always spent Thanksgiving with his family and he felt "jilted" because it would be just me and him. I was sort of flabberghasted. I haven't always spent every holiday with family so what was the big deal? why wasn't I good enough to have it with. We argued.
What I hadn't told him and can say here because who the heck is going to judge a site? it had been two weeks since I had "gone" properly, and each time it was not good. My stomach was dying. I slept all day Friday and Saturday he got me medicine to relieve the issue - which i will not provide details to but was unpleasant beyond measure. I am still not well today, no carbs or at least very little, and apparently lost 8lbs in two days.
We are now having Thanksgiving at my Ma's. Swiss Chalet here we go! but you know what, you get what you get Gregory. And be happy that my family is stepping up to the plate.
Though it occurred to me and I said as much later that I could understand. That growing up it really hurt me that my Oma and Opa left me to dry; that I was just "sold out" thanks to a situation that had absolutely nothing to do with me and I remember clearly wishing I had that family dynamic at least once or twice. I remembered all this after an extremely vivid dream of my Oma and Opa's on Ritson Road. Greg and I were living there for some odd reason and all our stuff was there waiting for the house to be sold. Do you know I could even smell the way their house smelled? When I woke up I recalled all that I lost when I was...I think 11? And I realized how hurt a 31 year old would be missing out on the closest family events he has with all of them because that's just what he's used to.
We discussed it. We aren't arguing anymore lol
We have no washing machine and I am going crazy. Frank has to fix it! the landlord couldn't.
I can't wait to move. Official date of Dec 15 can't come fast enough!
Yesterday I felt well enough and we went to Costco (but then went back because it was closed) and didn't buy anything because the line ups were insane. Then we went to Target where I have never been and I found a stunning suit jacket that I would REALLY love to purchase. For $39? I think I can buy myself a birthday present. Or not - because we're moving but whatever! I got my nails fixed which I couldn't afford but it had been a month, I trimmed my own hair (Greg straightened the ends and cut too much off but it's fine), I did my eyebrows, I cleaned the house, cleaned out the storage closet, packed four boxes, made chilli for the week's lunches and made a nice fish and tzatzki dish for dinner.
That was all.
My current frustration is that we are told to utilize the receptionist and the occasional overflow that we have within the firm to assist us. In three of the assistant's cases here, myself included, we are overloaded but more specifically I am overloaded AND work for three people, AND have to clean up the prior assistant's mess. I am holding my own by a thread,...and yet, if I ask for help, I am advised that they "can't" for this reason or that, or that "someone else can do it, wait for them" and in today's case it was me asking for help, receiving it, attending the person who could help me but HR arriving on scene to advise to "give it to her tomorrow".
So. What you're saying is I can get help, but only if I wait four days. Well, I'll do it myself then. You wonder why people are backlogged? it's because you definitely do NOT have our backs. You've got yours; and good for you as I believe most people are out for ourselves, but when you're in HR ... don't you have to consider the options?
I took Friday off. I had to. I woke up Friday morning with cramps, a migraine, sneezing, and I just couldn't do it. I added in my head how many days I actually take off and decided it was a reasonable reason to be home. Plus Greg and I had a huge argument about Thanksgiving the night before so I just needed time. His family isn't hosting it this year and it turned into him having a huge fit because he has always spent Thanksgiving with his family and he felt "jilted" because it would be just me and him. I was sort of flabberghasted. I haven't always spent every holiday with family so what was the big deal? why wasn't I good enough to have it with. We argued.
What I hadn't told him and can say here because who the heck is going to judge a site? it had been two weeks since I had "gone" properly, and each time it was not good. My stomach was dying. I slept all day Friday and Saturday he got me medicine to relieve the issue - which i will not provide details to but was unpleasant beyond measure. I am still not well today, no carbs or at least very little, and apparently lost 8lbs in two days.
We are now having Thanksgiving at my Ma's. Swiss Chalet here we go! but you know what, you get what you get Gregory. And be happy that my family is stepping up to the plate.
Though it occurred to me and I said as much later that I could understand. That growing up it really hurt me that my Oma and Opa left me to dry; that I was just "sold out" thanks to a situation that had absolutely nothing to do with me and I remember clearly wishing I had that family dynamic at least once or twice. I remembered all this after an extremely vivid dream of my Oma and Opa's on Ritson Road. Greg and I were living there for some odd reason and all our stuff was there waiting for the house to be sold. Do you know I could even smell the way their house smelled? When I woke up I recalled all that I lost when I was...I think 11? And I realized how hurt a 31 year old would be missing out on the closest family events he has with all of them because that's just what he's used to.
We discussed it. We aren't arguing anymore lol
We have no washing machine and I am going crazy. Frank has to fix it! the landlord couldn't.
I can't wait to move. Official date of Dec 15 can't come fast enough!
Yesterday I felt well enough and we went to Costco (but then went back because it was closed) and didn't buy anything because the line ups were insane. Then we went to Target where I have never been and I found a stunning suit jacket that I would REALLY love to purchase. For $39? I think I can buy myself a birthday present. Or not - because we're moving but whatever! I got my nails fixed which I couldn't afford but it had been a month, I trimmed my own hair (Greg straightened the ends and cut too much off but it's fine), I did my eyebrows, I cleaned the house, cleaned out the storage closet, packed four boxes, made chilli for the week's lunches and made a nice fish and tzatzki dish for dinner.
That was all.