adam
for the first part of the week, adam was just like how i remember him from years past. i remember how i was put off by certain quirks he has and ultimately remembered why i had stopped hanging out with him after only a short while each time. mostly, i tend to be very uncomfortable around him.
the guy will not eat at resteraunts, his jokes absolutely suck and he puts sarcastic remarks in places they shouldn't go and he tends to offend. he doesn't have a lack of empathy but does lack sympathy. he can put himself in other people's shoes but can easly just not care. it was just irritating. i might be telling him why i can't just up and move to some other state without a job or some sort of plan and he will respond with an accusation that i am "trying to convinse myself". this one he has pulled more then once. i find it undermining i guess. like the point i'm making has just been devalued. i overall find him hard to "connect" with. he still makes me uneasy.
however by the end of the week, i started to see many traits that are actually quite appealing. the guy can be extremely perceptive and insightful. he is great at conversation, even exhibits a sort of "soft side" that logically i knew was there, everyone has one, but i didn't expect to see it at all. now that i have seen part of it, i find myself wanting to see a bit more.
its odd, you might be telling him something or explaining a situation you were in and he doesn't always show much appreciation for it but will later exhibit signs to suggest that he certainly did get what you were saying and even thought about it after. that was also a nice surprise.
one thing that i like a lot that i didn't pick out before, is that adam does not stay mad for any length of time. i know i have irritated him to no end more then once but it was never long before he was talking about something else and we were getting along again even if i hadn't fully let it go.
he can be a hard-ass so to speak most of the time but this really isn't a bad thing. when i think of adam, the adjuctive that stands out in my mind is "stable". this could be because i am so very NOT stable in all the ways i would like to be, but its refreshing to know that adam has the ability to be relied upon to a degree if such a need were to arise.
have i really managed to overlook all this before? i hate to admit it but i really kind of thought adam lacked any capacity to be any kind of a 'real friend' since i met him so many years ago. it also could be that i was right and none of these positive traits exhisted then. alot can happen in 12 years though.
i should also add that adam is for the most part, physically attractive. even has semi-long hair which is always a plus.
i don't think there was ever a time since we met in 8th grade that i have spent so much time with him all at once. like i said, i was always put off by this hard, sarcastic exterior and went running in the opposite direction. as it is currently, i have been shown just enough of a softer, more in-depth person to want to know everything. too bad i finally start to like the guy when there is only 2 days left. even the uneasiness has become exciting to a degree.
adam has gone back to NC. i still hope to see him again at some point.
the guy will not eat at resteraunts, his jokes absolutely suck and he puts sarcastic remarks in places they shouldn't go and he tends to offend. he doesn't have a lack of empathy but does lack sympathy. he can put himself in other people's shoes but can easly just not care. it was just irritating. i might be telling him why i can't just up and move to some other state without a job or some sort of plan and he will respond with an accusation that i am "trying to convinse myself". this one he has pulled more then once. i find it undermining i guess. like the point i'm making has just been devalued. i overall find him hard to "connect" with. he still makes me uneasy.
however by the end of the week, i started to see many traits that are actually quite appealing. the guy can be extremely perceptive and insightful. he is great at conversation, even exhibits a sort of "soft side" that logically i knew was there, everyone has one, but i didn't expect to see it at all. now that i have seen part of it, i find myself wanting to see a bit more.
its odd, you might be telling him something or explaining a situation you were in and he doesn't always show much appreciation for it but will later exhibit signs to suggest that he certainly did get what you were saying and even thought about it after. that was also a nice surprise.
one thing that i like a lot that i didn't pick out before, is that adam does not stay mad for any length of time. i know i have irritated him to no end more then once but it was never long before he was talking about something else and we were getting along again even if i hadn't fully let it go.
he can be a hard-ass so to speak most of the time but this really isn't a bad thing. when i think of adam, the adjuctive that stands out in my mind is "stable". this could be because i am so very NOT stable in all the ways i would like to be, but its refreshing to know that adam has the ability to be relied upon to a degree if such a need were to arise.
have i really managed to overlook all this before? i hate to admit it but i really kind of thought adam lacked any capacity to be any kind of a 'real friend' since i met him so many years ago. it also could be that i was right and none of these positive traits exhisted then. alot can happen in 12 years though.
i should also add that adam is for the most part, physically attractive. even has semi-long hair which is always a plus.
i don't think there was ever a time since we met in 8th grade that i have spent so much time with him all at once. like i said, i was always put off by this hard, sarcastic exterior and went running in the opposite direction. as it is currently, i have been shown just enough of a softer, more in-depth person to want to know everything. too bad i finally start to like the guy when there is only 2 days left. even the uneasiness has become exciting to a degree.
adam has gone back to NC. i still hope to see him again at some point.