Why I'm Not a "Christian" and why I choose to have hot passionate sex everday
Next to the window in David's apartment is a bookshelf we bought at Ikea about a month ago to store his book collection. The majority of his books are classics: three or four Jane Austen titles, Don Quixote, Sherlock Holmes, Catch-22, among others. We've arranged them in alphabetical order, like a real library, except for the bottom shelf, which I've lovingly deemed "the shit shelf."
The shit shelf contains all the books I would never put in a library. A Bible, a general book filled with rules for card games, a cookbook, the Ikea fall catalog, and (my personal favorite) "How to Stay Christian in College."
First things first, David is not a "Christian" either. We don't deny nor affirm the existance of a God, but we're more likely to believe science. We both feel that religion blinds most people and restricts their liberties and freedom to think. That aside, the book is not a reflection of who he is but rather the enivronment he grew up in (he went to a christian high school).
I was reading it thursday while David was at work. Evangelical it was. Spread the word of God to all your friends. Convert! Convert! Convert!
But what really bothered me was its take on relationships. It stated that you should only date people that you want to marry. And you must date (1) a christian and (2) a person who would make a good parent. According to the book, the purpose of dating is to find your future spouse. Forget about going out on dates with someone you have similar interest in; that isn't important. What IS important is that the woman devoutly believe in God and that she have wide child-bearing hips and fertile eggs. It took me off guard because it totally removed love and passion from a relationship.
The book, unsurprisingly, advocated abstinence til marriage. It said never to go on dates alone because it might tempt couples, and to even refrain from kissing. While I agree that couples should wait until they're mature enough to have sex (we waited over a year for the actual consummation), i don't think premarital sex is such a grave sin that it will keep people out of heaven. The book said THERE WAS NO ROMANCE IN SEX, that sex is just created by God to reproduce. And on top of that if you don't want to have kids, that's a sin as well; God's purpose for a couple is to be fruitful and multiply. So if you're impotent or have PCOS (like i thought i did) and it hampers your ability to be fertile, then you might as well go to hell.
I think it's sad that they have such restricted views on relationships. David was telling me that he thinks hooking up with girls from clubs is distasteful because it's too self-fulfulling; you're only having sex to please yourself. He was explaining that sex within a relationship (when two people are in love) offers a level of intimacy that really can't be compared to anything else. I think he's right. He and I built this relationship that, on its own, was fantastic. I've never felt as connected to a person before. But it's true, when people have sex, their relationshp changes. It's kinda like... a deeper connection. Sex stops being about what feels good for one person and starts being about what's best for both. Sex is exposing and leaves people totally vulnerable. But at the same time, it builds trust. When timed correctly, sex in a mature relationship can strengthen it.
Idk, i'm ranting. I just don't agree with little pussy Christian bitches who insist on waiting til marriage.
I feel bad that they don't get to feel how amazing it is to have someone love them NOT because they'd make a good mother or to have someone have sex with them NOT because its to have children.
in fact, I feel bad for anyone who doesn't have this sort of relationship in their life. Especially at our age.
And to think that there's people our age who have never had a boyfriend or who have never kissed someone. It makes me sad.
The shit shelf contains all the books I would never put in a library. A Bible, a general book filled with rules for card games, a cookbook, the Ikea fall catalog, and (my personal favorite) "How to Stay Christian in College."
First things first, David is not a "Christian" either. We don't deny nor affirm the existance of a God, but we're more likely to believe science. We both feel that religion blinds most people and restricts their liberties and freedom to think. That aside, the book is not a reflection of who he is but rather the enivronment he grew up in (he went to a christian high school).
I was reading it thursday while David was at work. Evangelical it was. Spread the word of God to all your friends. Convert! Convert! Convert!
But what really bothered me was its take on relationships. It stated that you should only date people that you want to marry. And you must date (1) a christian and (2) a person who would make a good parent. According to the book, the purpose of dating is to find your future spouse. Forget about going out on dates with someone you have similar interest in; that isn't important. What IS important is that the woman devoutly believe in God and that she have wide child-bearing hips and fertile eggs. It took me off guard because it totally removed love and passion from a relationship.
The book, unsurprisingly, advocated abstinence til marriage. It said never to go on dates alone because it might tempt couples, and to even refrain from kissing. While I agree that couples should wait until they're mature enough to have sex (we waited over a year for the actual consummation), i don't think premarital sex is such a grave sin that it will keep people out of heaven. The book said THERE WAS NO ROMANCE IN SEX, that sex is just created by God to reproduce. And on top of that if you don't want to have kids, that's a sin as well; God's purpose for a couple is to be fruitful and multiply. So if you're impotent or have PCOS (like i thought i did) and it hampers your ability to be fertile, then you might as well go to hell.
I think it's sad that they have such restricted views on relationships. David was telling me that he thinks hooking up with girls from clubs is distasteful because it's too self-fulfulling; you're only having sex to please yourself. He was explaining that sex within a relationship (when two people are in love) offers a level of intimacy that really can't be compared to anything else. I think he's right. He and I built this relationship that, on its own, was fantastic. I've never felt as connected to a person before. But it's true, when people have sex, their relationshp changes. It's kinda like... a deeper connection. Sex stops being about what feels good for one person and starts being about what's best for both. Sex is exposing and leaves people totally vulnerable. But at the same time, it builds trust. When timed correctly, sex in a mature relationship can strengthen it.
Idk, i'm ranting. I just don't agree with little pussy Christian bitches who insist on waiting til marriage.
I feel bad that they don't get to feel how amazing it is to have someone love them NOT because they'd make a good mother or to have someone have sex with them NOT because its to have children.
in fact, I feel bad for anyone who doesn't have this sort of relationship in their life. Especially at our age.
And to think that there's people our age who have never had a boyfriend or who have never kissed someone. It makes me sad.