Happy Trails, Kalina

[snowrabbit]

Well, I finally got my response from Kalina. After 48 hours sitting on pins and needles waiting for any word about a second date, a message arrived just a little while ago. It was short. One paragraph. She thanked me for meeting her, thanked me for giving her a chance, and wished me well. However, she said she didn't feel the "common interest" she

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[lil_twitty_1]

Awwwww :(

*squishy LJ hugs*

I still wuvs you.

And you are so not the most boring person ever. You've done lots of exciting stuff, like your road trip and getting sunburnt. :p

As for crooked teeth and sunburn... well... sunburn isn't permanent and crooked teeth aren't any big deal. Now if you had horns growing out of your head that would be a different story.

[snowrabbit]

Awww I was waiting to see your sad hippo icon!! Thanks for the wuv. I know you guys here on LJ have the benefit of reading about the wonderful and interesting things I do whereas 90 minutes in a crampt coffee bar isn't any real time to get through to anyone.

[lil_twitty_1]

Awwww sorry to disappoint you with the icon.

I think 90 minutes is enough time to at least get to know each other a bit. Sure it's not like you could tell each other your life stories, but still. Maybe it was the coffee...

I've had dates like that. They suck.

[snowrabbit]

Yea, they suck. I guess I'm more shocked than anything. Things seemed to be going so well!! When we left, she was talking about getting ahold of me again and asked for my number. To be rejected in the end is what just messes with me the most. Things seemed fine.

[jeef14]

Well, I'm sorry it didn't work out, but I'll go with the cheesy line; "Things happen for a reason."

[snowrabbit]

Yup yup. I'm already fairly well moved on from Kalina. Yea, I'll wonder for a little while what might of been and I'll be a little sore from making myself so vulnerable, but at least now I have a better idea of the kind of woman I want.

[jeef14]

Yup, that's always helpful.

[sassylilscorpio]

Yes, things happen for a reason. I agree with that. Yes, she could've told you sooner. Too true. And yes, she's the one missing out on a great guy like you. You'll never know what it was that made her uninterested. It could be what we're discussing now. She wants to travel and see the world, and you are still making a life for yourself in Oregon. It is a let-down, yes, but it was a good experience to learn what you like in a woman vs. what you don't like. It probably wasn't meant to go further with her and I'm sure down the line you'll find a awesome woman who makes you happy in every way. When one door closes, another door opens. It's a cliche, but it's true. You'll see. *Hugs*

[snowrabbit]

I began thinking about what Kalina's friends must be telling her. I realized it's rather self-defeating to think about that because, just like my friends are reassuring me that I'm a great guy and that it's her loss, Kalina's friends are proabbly reassuring her that she's a great girl and that I'm the one losing out. She probably gossiped to her friends about how horrible a match I was for her and they'll agree and everyone will get the wrong opinion of me because Kalina didn't like me. I liked her, so I would hope that people in my life who knew of this date wouldn't get the wrong idea about her because she was who she was and it's probably for the best and that's okay. You seem to understand this a lot and I'm thankful! I only hope Kalina's friends are as compassionate.

[sassylilscorpio]

Try not to overthink it. I know that's hard and of all people, Ms. OverThinksEverything is telling you this. I just don't want you to drive yourself crazy over something that may not even have solid proof or backing. It is self-defeating, as you said. In the end, it's an experience and it's something to learn from. Maybe she took so long because she wasn't sure how to break it to you. I'm not sure. Kalina will be Kalina and Adam will be Adam. And you're damn fine! ;)

[snowrabbit]

Hehehehe yea, being fine is how I got the date in the first place :D