That's very sweet! I *heart* this list very much. I feel the same way, but it's hard to be in a relationship with someone who does not operate under the same guidelines, who does not forgive, who assigns hidden meaning and intent to every word and action.
The lessons from my relationship D it would be something like:
-- no matter how supportive you are of someone, even if all his friends you are saying that you are being very supportive, if that person does not feel supported, there's not much you can do to create that feeling for him
-- someone who keeps changing the rules, conditions and basic issues in a relationship -- and when you point out that what he said changed from the previous day (or even hour!) verbally blocks you with "Do you want to be right or do you want to be in a relationship?" -- really does not want to be in a relationship.
-- someone who says "It's all about me" and claims it is a joke -- isn't really joking.
I especially like this one - the part about "wasting months". So true.
-choose trust. assume that you are on the same team, until you have evidence of otherwise. even if your trust ends up being ill-placed, at least you haven't wasted months coming from a suspicious viewpoint.
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The lessons from my relationship D it would be something like:
-- no matter how supportive you are of someone, even if all his friends you are saying that you are being very supportive, if that person does not feel supported, there's not much you can do to create that feeling for him
-- someone who keeps changing the rules, conditions and basic issues in a relationship -- and when you point out that what he said changed from the previous day (or even hour!) verbally blocks you with "Do you want to be right or do you want to be in a relationship?" -- really does not want to be in a relationship.
-- someone who says "It's all about me" and claims it is a joke -- isn't really joking.
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-choose trust. assume that you are on the same team, until you have evidence of otherwise. even if your trust ends up being ill-placed, at least you haven't wasted months coming from a suspicious viewpoint.
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