Well, I know there have been a lot of changes in where I've come from since I left. There have been a lot of new land developments and hotels, etc.
Also, there is almost no feminism in Russia. (What there is wouldn't be seen as feminism by Western women.) This will cause some problems just because of the respect that I am used to showing here.
No one talks crap here. If they do, they expect to be in fisticuffs within moments. The loser usually will lose teeth and have a fractured skull and ribs when it's over. (Rule #1: NEVER go down.)
Russians say what they think...no fake smiles and no bull. Most Westerners by nature are fake...fake smiles, fake emotions, talk about you later, full of bull. In Texas, or at least the part I'm from, people were certainly honest...but by nature try to smile. Many other Americans ask about your day, but don't care about the answer--especially yanks. Then there is the delta (difference) between what their telling you and what they really are saying/thinking. (Russians aren't good at lying...but can do it with a straight face.)
I've now mixed together my American and Russian tendencies. I've also cut away a lot of the bull that I felt wasn't realistic about myself. If I think someone is ugly, I still don't tell them...but I won't lie and tell them that they're beautiful. I find that I've stripped away that layer of pointlessness.
All of that being said, I still love my country and my people. I think most of them are very good people. --Just sometimes spoiled into not thinking for themselves anymore.
No, my girlfriend hasn't been to the US before. Her mother has been once and her father used to spend about two times per year in some American city. He was the chief accountant for an American owned cellular communications company and they often sent him to America to do things. And she also has met my mother and aunt.(She knows what to expect pretty well and I think her father taught her to be more American than most Americans--in the original sense of the term, not just in the naturalized sense.)
Also, there is almost no feminism in Russia. (What there is wouldn't be seen as feminism by Western women.) This will cause some problems just because of the respect that I am used to showing here. **What kind of respect are you showing there? Hopefully more than typical American men show us here! I am not a feminist at all, at least the definition that I know of feminist. I mean, I would like to have equal pay as a man. But as far as the home goes, I like my man out in the yard and me in the kitchen. I like my doors opened for me, and I like to take care of my man. So typically I am not seen as a feminist at all.
I learned in university not to open doors or take women's coats. Here, I do that same thing...but I won't mind not having to carry everything for women and doing all the 'men's work'.
And my girlfriend and I met through the internet...in 2001. We were friend for a few years before we decided to try dating. (She even got to hear about some of the girls I was dating while I was dating them--and what an idiot I was with them). Then I came here in 2004. It's actually been a wonderful relationship since. (Maybe except her mother living here. :-) )
Oh, yeah, and she corrected my journal too; her father was the general/managing director of that only cellular communications company in Turkmenistan. Apparently, he was in America for communications exhibitions and conferences. [I know a little about these so I'm sure he had a great time at those conferences--the technological toys are just fantastic at them.]
so were you planning on going to Russia prior to meeting her and therefore specifically look for a Russian lady? Or did you just happen to meet a Russian, fall in love and THEN decide to move to Russie?
I actually never really planned to go/come to Russia.
My best friend then was Russian...thus I wouldn't have preferred Russian women--as he could be annoying and had also introduced me to the difficulty of dating/marrying one.
I still don't prefer Russian women, honestly. I like some of them...but very few would be worth keeping around for me.
She coerced me, I think. Honestly, it was my sense of adventure that really got me here and she kept me here.
Also, there is almost no feminism in Russia. (What there is wouldn't be seen as feminism by Western women.) This will cause some problems just because of the respect that I am used to showing here.
No one talks crap here. If they do, they expect to be in fisticuffs within moments. The loser usually will lose teeth and have a fractured skull and ribs when it's over. (Rule #1: NEVER go down.)
Russians say what they think...no fake smiles and no bull. Most Westerners by nature are fake...fake smiles, fake emotions, talk about you later, full of bull.
In Texas, or at least the part I'm from, people were certainly honest...but by nature try to smile. Many other Americans ask about your day, but don't care about the answer--especially yanks. Then there is the delta (difference) between what their telling you and what they really are saying/thinking. (Russians aren't good at lying...but can do it with a straight face.)
I've now mixed together my American and Russian tendencies. I've also cut away a lot of the bull that I felt wasn't realistic about myself. If I think someone is ugly, I still don't tell them...but I won't lie and tell them that they're beautiful. I find that I've stripped away that layer of pointlessness.
All of that being said, I still love my country and my people. I think most of them are very good people. --Just sometimes spoiled into not thinking for themselves anymore.
No, my girlfriend hasn't been to the US before. Her mother has been once and her father used to spend about two times per year in some American city. He was the chief accountant for an American owned cellular communications company and they often sent him to America to do things. And she also has met my mother and aunt.(She knows what to expect pretty well and I think her father taught her to be more American than most Americans--in the original sense of the term, not just in the naturalized sense.)
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**What kind of respect are you showing there? Hopefully more than typical American men show us here! I am not a feminist at all, at least the definition that I know of feminist. I mean, I would like to have equal pay as a man. But as far as the home goes, I like my man out in the yard and me in the kitchen. I like my doors opened for me, and I like to take care of my man. So typically I am not seen as a feminist at all.
How did you meet your girlfriend?
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Here, I do that same thing...but I won't mind not having to carry everything for women and doing all the 'men's work'.
And my girlfriend and I met through the internet...in 2001. We were friend for a few years before we decided to try dating. (She even got to hear about some of the girls I was dating while I was dating them--and what an idiot I was with them). Then I came here in 2004. It's actually been a wonderful relationship since. (Maybe except her mother living here. :-) )
Oh, yeah, and she corrected my journal too; her father was the general/managing director of that only cellular communications company in Turkmenistan. Apparently, he was in America for communications exhibitions and conferences. [I know a little about these so I'm sure he had a great time at those conferences--the technological toys are just fantastic at them.]
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My best friend then was Russian...thus I wouldn't have preferred Russian women--as he could be annoying and had also introduced me to the difficulty of dating/marrying one.
I still don't prefer Russian women, honestly. I like some of them...but very few would be worth keeping around for me.
She coerced me, I think. Honestly, it was my sense of adventure that really got me here and she kept me here.
I think I would normally prefer other women.
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