Jim
Jim and I have been going out for eight weeks and he is starting to become more than “someone I am dating.” I really like him, I mean really like him to the point of not being interested in seeing other guys and that scares me. None of the other guys I have dated since my separation really mattered - when I stopped seeing them it didn’t hurt. With Jim I’ve let my emotions come into play in a way I haven’t since my husband. Right from the start something made me tell myself to throw out my usual MO and indulge myself in all the feelings of first a major crush and then a girlfriend/boyfriend situation. For instance early on I got upset at something he said on the phone. With other guys I’d just be like “he’s a jerk, forget him.” But when I was upset at Jim, I let myself get into a full-blown hissy fit complete with hurling the telephone against my bedroom wall. And when I did something to upset HIM, I hated myself for it. I know all these pesky emotions mean that if something goes wrong it will hurt and I’ll miss the hell out of him. Ick.
Where I’ve been feeling and acting on emotions much more than usual, Jim is doing me one better and actually expressing his emotions. He tells me how much he likes me and how much he likes being with me and how much he misses me during the week (he lives an hour away so we just see each other on the weekends). He is so sweet. Like Kelrick, though, I wonder about the nature of our attraction. We don’t have a lot in common aside from the fact that we are both Libra and both youngest children, which aren’t exactly necessarily good things!! We accept each other’s weaknesses but neither is strong enough to HELP the other with them. If anything, I am the stronger, more responsible one and that, aside from being scary, is very different than how it was with my husband. Maybe I am subconsciously going for a completely different kind of relationship. I definitely do NOT look to Jim as a father-type figure as I did my husband. I feel more inclined to be giving to Jim, not to say that he doesn’t give a lot back by the way of attention and affection. One thing we do have in common is that we both are VERY affectionate and we both like giving and getting a lot of attention (Libra!).
Valentine’s Day was SO nice. When I first got to his place, he gave me the flowers, then the candy. I surprised him with the "Rush in Rio" DVD set, which he really liked. I felt very pleased with myself over that selection!! We were so drippy (as Jim says) we practically needed insulin shots. Then it was off to Bennigan’s for dinner and then to Famous Freddie’s to see a band. The band was a bit disappointing as they played a lot of stuff I didn’t know but Jim and I had fun together as we always do. He was so darling the way he gave me the necklace. At one point I reached across the table to take his hand and found there a small jewelry box. I was completely surprised! He gave me a very nice sapphire/diamond pendant necklace. It is very lovely. When we got back to his place he lit a nice fire in the fireplace and we listened to music and drank a bunch and had a grand time.
This weekend I am staying with him Friday AND Saturday nights for the first time. Since we are both people who enjoy a great deal of alone time, we are a bit worried that we will grow weary of each other’s company before Sunday afternoon rolls around. To prevent this, we are planning a break from being together on Saturday afternoon. I might go to a movie with Jim’s mother and maybe a bit of shopping. I’ll take a book along too, and if nothing else, I can go to a different room and just read for a few hours.
One more hour of work then I can go home, finish packing and getting ready to go and start driving!!
Where I’ve been feeling and acting on emotions much more than usual, Jim is doing me one better and actually expressing his emotions. He tells me how much he likes me and how much he likes being with me and how much he misses me during the week (he lives an hour away so we just see each other on the weekends). He is so sweet. Like Kelrick, though, I wonder about the nature of our attraction. We don’t have a lot in common aside from the fact that we are both Libra and both youngest children, which aren’t exactly necessarily good things!! We accept each other’s weaknesses but neither is strong enough to HELP the other with them. If anything, I am the stronger, more responsible one and that, aside from being scary, is very different than how it was with my husband. Maybe I am subconsciously going for a completely different kind of relationship. I definitely do NOT look to Jim as a father-type figure as I did my husband. I feel more inclined to be giving to Jim, not to say that he doesn’t give a lot back by the way of attention and affection. One thing we do have in common is that we both are VERY affectionate and we both like giving and getting a lot of attention (Libra!).
Valentine’s Day was SO nice. When I first got to his place, he gave me the flowers, then the candy. I surprised him with the "Rush in Rio" DVD set, which he really liked. I felt very pleased with myself over that selection!! We were so drippy (as Jim says) we practically needed insulin shots. Then it was off to Bennigan’s for dinner and then to Famous Freddie’s to see a band. The band was a bit disappointing as they played a lot of stuff I didn’t know but Jim and I had fun together as we always do. He was so darling the way he gave me the necklace. At one point I reached across the table to take his hand and found there a small jewelry box. I was completely surprised! He gave me a very nice sapphire/diamond pendant necklace. It is very lovely. When we got back to his place he lit a nice fire in the fireplace and we listened to music and drank a bunch and had a grand time.
This weekend I am staying with him Friday AND Saturday nights for the first time. Since we are both people who enjoy a great deal of alone time, we are a bit worried that we will grow weary of each other’s company before Sunday afternoon rolls around. To prevent this, we are planning a break from being together on Saturday afternoon. I might go to a movie with Jim’s mother and maybe a bit of shopping. I’ll take a book along too, and if nothing else, I can go to a different room and just read for a few hours.
One more hour of work then I can go home, finish packing and getting ready to go and start driving!!