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Well last night, I finally got up the balls, and came out to my grandparents. I must have been deluded into thinking it would go well... it didn't. I did it as softly and nicely as possible, saying that Kirk and I are more than just friends, and trying to explain a little at a time. However, it turned into grandma yelling "I can't handle this" and taking my college graduation pictures off of the refridgerator and ripping them up and throwing them away.
She went in the back bedroom for a bit and my mom went to try to talk to her... grandpa asked a few things, which I really didn't expect, but he handled it in the manner I expected, very calmly and straightforward, like he always is.
But anyway, grandma continued by trying to rip the photos of me off of her walls, and I've never heard my grandpa yell at her so loudly to stop... mom and I were just crying, she wanted us out, and kept saying "I can't take this, I have no grandson" over and over again...
So we talked to Grandpa a little, and I thanked him for sort of understanding, and in his typical fashion, he said "Well you're 22 years old, you've made the choice, you're the one that has to face the world, what am I going to do" and before we left he said you know you're always welcome here, no matter what...
It was far worse than I could ever have imagined, and worse than even my mom thought it would be. She's already said that we'll have just the 4 of us for Thanksgiving. So now because of this, my family will be in unrest for a while, because of my grandma and her actions. However, I never thought my mom would be so good about it, she's finally talked to a friend at work, she's been far more supportive than she's been before, and is totally 100% on my side.
She went in the back bedroom for a bit and my mom went to try to talk to her... grandpa asked a few things, which I really didn't expect, but he handled it in the manner I expected, very calmly and straightforward, like he always is.
But anyway, grandma continued by trying to rip the photos of me off of her walls, and I've never heard my grandpa yell at her so loudly to stop... mom and I were just crying, she wanted us out, and kept saying "I can't take this, I have no grandson" over and over again...
So we talked to Grandpa a little, and I thanked him for sort of understanding, and in his typical fashion, he said "Well you're 22 years old, you've made the choice, you're the one that has to face the world, what am I going to do" and before we left he said you know you're always welcome here, no matter what...
It was far worse than I could ever have imagined, and worse than even my mom thought it would be. She's already said that we'll have just the 4 of us for Thanksgiving. So now because of this, my family will be in unrest for a while, because of my grandma and her actions. However, I never thought my mom would be so good about it, she's finally talked to a friend at work, she's been far more supportive than she's been before, and is totally 100% on my side.