My Dilemma
Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated. An old friend of mine, Claire, has become put on strings by a horrible excuse for a boyfriend. Claire and I use to hang out every once in a while almost 3 years ago. As you know many people are horrible at calling people to keep in touch and I sadly was no exception back then. I never really ran into her too often at shows and since both of us had poor calling habits we never really kept in touch. Well since I’m no longer as pathetic as I was a lil over a year ago give her a call for sakes of keeping in touch with all my friends. I only did get to talk to her once. She sounded glad to hear from me and we made plans to go to Disney to go swing dancing some time soon. (she is a huge fan of swing dancing). Sadly the phone call was cut REALLY short and she had to go. Couple days later she sent me an email apologizing for having to go but apparently her boyfriend (of two years now) dose not allow her to talk to any other guy no matter what. He almost dumped her once cause she hugged an old friend that was a guy once and he found out. Just a regular plain ol hug hello. Needless to say, this boyfriend of hers is an asshole. My only way of getting a hold of Claire is by her cell phone but her boy will not allow her to talk to any guys, especially me, and even screens her phone calls. Basicly Claire has lost her life entirely. She no longer is allowed to go out dancing (which was one of her biggest passions), she isn’t allowed to got to ska shows (she loves that too) or have any friends. This is a horrible way for anyone to live, not allowed to have any friends or do the things they love. Because of her boy she doesn’t even talk with her once best friend Megan any more. Megan of which is almost certain her boy even beats Claire. There is actually no proof of that that I know of so it’s not quite an issue but still a concern. From what I hear form Claire’s sister is that he is very much so the violent type.
Long story short I am determined to get this girl back on track. She is a really sweet and nice friend who does not deserve to “live” like that. Sadly she is easily influenced by who she is with and has a huge fear of being alone so it will be tough to knock some sense into her, but I am certain if I could talk to her in person for just an hour I could help her out greatly.
One plan I had was to have a handful of my friends (ladies) give her a call (so it wont be from my phone) and invite her to the $2 Tuesdays swing dancing at Atomic Ballroom which is close to where she lives. What do you think? I wont post her number on her because that’s obviously not too polite.
If anyone has any suggestion at all PLEASE let me know. I can not rest until I’ve done everything in my power to help her out.
Long story short I am determined to get this girl back on track. She is a really sweet and nice friend who does not deserve to “live” like that. Sadly she is easily influenced by who she is with and has a huge fear of being alone so it will be tough to knock some sense into her, but I am certain if I could talk to her in person for just an hour I could help her out greatly.
One plan I had was to have a handful of my friends (ladies) give her a call (so it wont be from my phone) and invite her to the $2 Tuesdays swing dancing at Atomic Ballroom which is close to where she lives. What do you think? I wont post her number on her because that’s obviously not too polite.
If anyone has any suggestion at all PLEASE let me know. I can not rest until I’ve done everything in my power to help her out.