I almost titled this "interesting conversation", but interesting is not strong enough a word.
Found this post by some random clicking, and glad I have done so - there's really a lot to consider here. Warning, the posts and threads below deal with rape, sexual harassment, and related topics which may be a trigger for some. There's a great deal to read in the comments to the posts, and I haven't even come close to reading all the comments for the original post.
Original post Followup or related posts I also found compelling or interesting (many referenced in comments to original post):
here here here One particularly useful thread from the comments of the original post is
here.
And one more interesting
link I noticed in comments.