not mad
i'm not mad, ginny. in fact, i'm proud of you that you stood your ground and told him that you are not his counselor or therapist and you are not going to stand for being walked on anymore. i'm glad that you told him exactly how you feel and that you've been down this road before. it's nice that he told you about his grandfather, knowing that you really liked the man and seemed fairly close to him. however, i must say that he does seem to pop into your life when he needs or wants something, in this case, a shoulder to cry on. and that is why i'm proud that you did not and will not let him. he had his CHANCES before during and after your marriage and he did not take them. but just because you no longer want to be with him doesn't mean you stop caring for people in his family you were close with. and i think it's perfectly fine if you were to visit his grandfather and/or contact him; and if, heaven forbid, he does die soon, pay your respects. it has nothing to do with the death eater at this point, and he needs to realize this.
it sounds like you laid it on straight and he needs to get the fact that you are not someone to whom he can turn when he is in a crisis. he needs to realize that maybe things will never be the same as before (friendship-wise). has he admitted EVERYTHING that happened and realized it was his fault and realized, fully, WHO (not what) he has lost???? sounds to me like the answer to that is "no."
ginny, you know what you are doing and you make choices based on your friendships love and respect. so you chose to speak with the death eater, don't justify your decisions to anyone. believe me, i'd be singing a different tune if you were constantly letting him pull a tom riddle on you, but that is not the case. you stand your ground when you talk to him and you let him know where you stand. and i know you are not his doormat, you will not be walked on by him. you've given him chance after chance, and you've seen for yourself that it is the same old story each and every time you give him another chance. he has proven that he can't do any of the work for longer than a week, then it's back to you again.
i just want to say again that i'm proud of you that you told him where you stand. and i'm sorry he had to visit you with sad news. i just hope he isn't using his family crisis to talk to you again. you've been back for how many WEEKS now???
and i also want to say that i dont' think he's generally a bad person, i just don't think he was a good husband and friend to and for you. at least since i've met you, he never treated you as a wife or friend. i know it might still hurt, or make you sad, that the friendship is gone, but remember that you tried, you were, and still are, the bigger person. you know that you will always be there for him should he really truly need it, because that is who you are--- you never turn your back on anyone.
take care and God bless... i'll talk to you soon.
it sounds like you laid it on straight and he needs to get the fact that you are not someone to whom he can turn when he is in a crisis. he needs to realize that maybe things will never be the same as before (friendship-wise). has he admitted EVERYTHING that happened and realized it was his fault and realized, fully, WHO (not what) he has lost???? sounds to me like the answer to that is "no."
ginny, you know what you are doing and you make choices based on your friendships love and respect. so you chose to speak with the death eater, don't justify your decisions to anyone. believe me, i'd be singing a different tune if you were constantly letting him pull a tom riddle on you, but that is not the case. you stand your ground when you talk to him and you let him know where you stand. and i know you are not his doormat, you will not be walked on by him. you've given him chance after chance, and you've seen for yourself that it is the same old story each and every time you give him another chance. he has proven that he can't do any of the work for longer than a week, then it's back to you again.
i just want to say again that i'm proud of you that you told him where you stand. and i'm sorry he had to visit you with sad news. i just hope he isn't using his family crisis to talk to you again. you've been back for how many WEEKS now???
and i also want to say that i dont' think he's generally a bad person, i just don't think he was a good husband and friend to and for you. at least since i've met you, he never treated you as a wife or friend. i know it might still hurt, or make you sad, that the friendship is gone, but remember that you tried, you were, and still are, the bigger person. you know that you will always be there for him should he really truly need it, because that is who you are--- you never turn your back on anyone.
take care and God bless... i'll talk to you soon.