Dec 02, 2006 23:11
Ok, I gotta talk about this. I can't just leave it alone.
A very good friend of mine just recently split up with his wife. Sad situation really, especially when you consider their two beautiful kids. It turns my stomach at the thought of it. If I'm not mistaken, they've been together for something like 10 years now, and it's all over in a matter of days.
Now let me give you a little background info from my perspective. I know that his wife has been unhappy for a while really, never really feeling like she was appreciated or particularly loved. It was obvious to me, and to my wife, that the second pregnancy was a lot for her to deal with and was really wearing on her. He always seemed to keep finding reasons to not be around the family to be honest. The biggest thing I noticed was his tendency to hang out a lot with one particular female friend of theirs. This made me very uneasy as he had quasi-cheated on his wife when they were just dating. I really felt like I should say something to him, but hell he's an adult I shouldn't have to tell him when he's being stupid... and I trust him to make decent decisions. Well, apparently that was dumb of me. I can almost guarantee he was banging this chick like there was no tomorrow. It sickens me to no end to know that he's throwing everything he had right down the drain. He had everything that I've ever wanted. He had an amazing woman for a wife, two fantastic kids, a nice house in a nice neighborhood, lots of great friends, a healthy art career. And he threw it all away, and I really have no idea why.
I have no idea why because he will not take my calls or return them. I've called him so many times since I found out what happened and he has yet to speak to me. I'm hoping that he won't talk to me because he's embarrassed about the situation, as he damn well oughta be. I doubt that though, he's not the embarrassed kinda guy. No, I actually think that he's mad at me to be honest. Though, I'm not really sure why. Granted, I don't know this for sure, this is purely conjecture.
Now I did call his wife and talked to her, made sure she was doing okay. My wife offered to take the kids off her hands for a while in case she needed to get away or just have some alone time. She declined but thanked us for the offer. We had a nice conversation, as we've had many times in the past. Only this time it was quite enlightening. She informed me that apparently, the one guy I've always honored and trusted and loved over any other friend I've ever had in my life... has always harbored the feeling that I was waiting around to try and steal his wife from him. Apparently this all stems from an incident quite a few years ago. I alluded to it earlier in the post. You see, my friend had been dating his now wife for a while and then started hanging out with another girl quite often. This particular girl was someone I was interested in, yet as usual she didn't return the feelings. Instead, also as usual, she was smitten with him. A dangerous mix. I warned him, and I warned her. Neither listened, and a makeout cheating session ensued. Of course at that point the two of them had a knock down drag out fight and were on verge of splitting for good.
At this point some of you would probably think "So here's where you made a move on his woman." No, I've never made any sort of "move" nor would I ever. I am way too loyal for that. Not to mention that I honestly have never seen her in that way before. She's always been his girlfriend/wife/whatever. I've never seen her as "available." Anyway, I digress. At this point, I proceeded to run around talking to the both of them to convince them to stay together. I knew that they were good for each other and i wanted them to realize it too. Long story short, they did just that(obviously), but somewhere in the middle the "other woman" informed my friend that supposedly she and I had hatched a nefarious plan to split the two of them up so that she could have him and I could have his wife. Now, anyone that truly knows me will know that this is ridiculous beyond measure.
So anyway to end this absurdly long post all I have to say is this. I am very pissed at him right now. Firstly for doing something so stupid as leaving his family, secondly for thinking I would ever do such a thing, and thirdly for having the gall to be mad at me for all of it. I've made several comments and posts about how I felt like I was losing most of my friends. Now it seems that the one friend I never thought I would lose is taking any and all choice out of my hands. Go figure.