Did I do the right thing?
Ugh so I have... had this friend Sean. And he's always bitching about life and not doing a damn thing about. I've gotten him jobs, drove him to work, gave him money for nice clothes, and he still manages to lose or quit those jobs in less then a month and then he bitches some more. He's 24 living with his grandpa. Doesnt have a car because he got pissed and beat the shit out of his car and broke something he could have spent $200 replacing. Instead he decides he's too lazy to come up with $200 so he sells the car to a junk yard for $500 so he can buy pop and smokes for awhile. He's in jail right now for carrying an illegal knife and they fighting with the cop on whether it was illegal or not. He got busted when he went with a friend to pawn jewelery and the shop owner saw the knife and got a little worried so he called the cops just in case.
Sean's status messages on myspace are never intelligent or cheerful or happy. They are always "Fuck my life" or "Fuck people who dont like me". His life rule is "If you dont like the way I am fuck off" which tells me he doesnt care for his friends he might be hurting or for people trying to help him find a job and a positive outlook on life. I've left helpful tips on his status comments. He deleted them. Examples, he wrote that he was really sick. I said go to the ER they have to take you and you pay when you can. He deleted it. He said "I'm sick of all the drama and bullshit" and I said " Try not letting it get to you, posting blogs about it and telling these people to fuck off doesnt help it just lets them know it bugs you and they will keep doing it because they are getting attention" he deleted it and then told me to fuck off, saying he'll say whatever the fuck he wants. He has never dated anyone over the age of 19. He complains about the girl and when they break up blames them. I say " Try holding a job and showing them you have responsibility and you will find more mature girls" he deleted it and told me that if mature girls dont like him thats their problem and he shouldnt have to show responsibility to have someone like him.
We use to be good friends. We use to hang out almost everyday. He started bitching about life about 3 years ago. He started saying that he couldnt get a job because ppl wouldnt accept the way he looked. He has less tattoos then I have (he has 3 and I have 19, one of which is on my face and ones that are on my fingers). I didnt have a problem finding a job.
On a small side note I have a job now. Yay!
I've busted my ass for this kid. ANd I finally got sick of it. I sent him this email about a month ago.
"Something has been bothering me. ALOT. You set your status messages to how much you are annoyed by bullshit all the time. But when I leave a constructive comment on it you delete it. Not only do i think you are ignoring my advice but now I think you simply put up those status messages to cause more bullshit and get attention. You also seem to sometimes think that you are the only person in the world with problems and your problems are unique and no one can help you with them. And when people do you pretty much tell them to fuck off because you dont want to change anything. Well, Sean, you are going to have to. Period. I mean it man. Nothing in your life will ever change or get better if YOU dont do something about it. DO you want to live off of other people your entire life? Yes concerts are fun, yes parties are fun. But you have to grow up eventually. You will never maintain a girlfriend if you cant provide something for her. Money, security, support, understanding in what she does, etc. And you can be pissed off at me all you want, I dont really care. I mean I do care about you which is why I am telling you this instead of just ignoring you til I felt patient enough to deal with you again. I just dont care if you get pissed about this message because its true. So whenever you honestly want to change and make your life better give me a call. If you just want to bitch about how much your life sucks and its everyone's fault but your own then dont bother"
he didnt respond. At least not to me. Instead he posted a blog about how no one understands and those who think he isnt living his life right should fuck off. SO my message does seem a little harsh. But for 3 years I've been getting this kid jobs and driving him and funding his clothes. And all I get from it is him telling me the jobs suck and that he told his boss to fuck off and all this other shit. He goes on and on about only wanting to start a band but never does. He says he needs money for a synthesizer but he wont work for the money for one. He even asked me for 2k once for one. I told him if he wanted it he was going to have to buy that himself and ya know what he said? He said "How can you call yourself a friend when you wont support me?" I barely had enough money to pay my own rent at the time and he pulls that shit.
Anyway he's in jail now. Maybe that will help him. At least I think he is. He hasnt logged onto his myspace since Dec. 21st which means he's either in jail or he's purposly not logging on so people think he's in jail and will pity him. Which I am sad to say is something he would do.
And I think the worse part is that none of this bugs me any more. He was my friend. Is it suppose to still bother me? Am I suppose to be upset?
Sean's status messages on myspace are never intelligent or cheerful or happy. They are always "Fuck my life" or "Fuck people who dont like me". His life rule is "If you dont like the way I am fuck off" which tells me he doesnt care for his friends he might be hurting or for people trying to help him find a job and a positive outlook on life. I've left helpful tips on his status comments. He deleted them. Examples, he wrote that he was really sick. I said go to the ER they have to take you and you pay when you can. He deleted it. He said "I'm sick of all the drama and bullshit" and I said " Try not letting it get to you, posting blogs about it and telling these people to fuck off doesnt help it just lets them know it bugs you and they will keep doing it because they are getting attention" he deleted it and then told me to fuck off, saying he'll say whatever the fuck he wants. He has never dated anyone over the age of 19. He complains about the girl and when they break up blames them. I say " Try holding a job and showing them you have responsibility and you will find more mature girls" he deleted it and told me that if mature girls dont like him thats their problem and he shouldnt have to show responsibility to have someone like him.
We use to be good friends. We use to hang out almost everyday. He started bitching about life about 3 years ago. He started saying that he couldnt get a job because ppl wouldnt accept the way he looked. He has less tattoos then I have (he has 3 and I have 19, one of which is on my face and ones that are on my fingers). I didnt have a problem finding a job.
On a small side note I have a job now. Yay!
I've busted my ass for this kid. ANd I finally got sick of it. I sent him this email about a month ago.
"Something has been bothering me. ALOT. You set your status messages to how much you are annoyed by bullshit all the time. But when I leave a constructive comment on it you delete it. Not only do i think you are ignoring my advice but now I think you simply put up those status messages to cause more bullshit and get attention. You also seem to sometimes think that you are the only person in the world with problems and your problems are unique and no one can help you with them. And when people do you pretty much tell them to fuck off because you dont want to change anything. Well, Sean, you are going to have to. Period. I mean it man. Nothing in your life will ever change or get better if YOU dont do something about it. DO you want to live off of other people your entire life? Yes concerts are fun, yes parties are fun. But you have to grow up eventually. You will never maintain a girlfriend if you cant provide something for her. Money, security, support, understanding in what she does, etc. And you can be pissed off at me all you want, I dont really care. I mean I do care about you which is why I am telling you this instead of just ignoring you til I felt patient enough to deal with you again. I just dont care if you get pissed about this message because its true. So whenever you honestly want to change and make your life better give me a call. If you just want to bitch about how much your life sucks and its everyone's fault but your own then dont bother"
he didnt respond. At least not to me. Instead he posted a blog about how no one understands and those who think he isnt living his life right should fuck off. SO my message does seem a little harsh. But for 3 years I've been getting this kid jobs and driving him and funding his clothes. And all I get from it is him telling me the jobs suck and that he told his boss to fuck off and all this other shit. He goes on and on about only wanting to start a band but never does. He says he needs money for a synthesizer but he wont work for the money for one. He even asked me for 2k once for one. I told him if he wanted it he was going to have to buy that himself and ya know what he said? He said "How can you call yourself a friend when you wont support me?" I barely had enough money to pay my own rent at the time and he pulls that shit.
Anyway he's in jail now. Maybe that will help him. At least I think he is. He hasnt logged onto his myspace since Dec. 21st which means he's either in jail or he's purposly not logging on so people think he's in jail and will pity him. Which I am sad to say is something he would do.
And I think the worse part is that none of this bugs me any more. He was my friend. Is it suppose to still bother me? Am I suppose to be upset?