Crappy outlook

[silver_huskey]

The sun may be shinning right now, but I already see the storm clouds arriving. I personally am I getting sick and tired of dealing someone who tries to so hard to aggravate you in every way possible. Yes, I'm taking about Lamonica again. (Seems like I never have anything good to say about foster children, eh?) No matter how many times you try

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[velvetpocket]

It's sad it's so hard to get through to her. Did your mother already try the "I'm really dissapointed in you right now, Lamonica" with the dissapointment face? I usually feel really bad of those. Maybe if your mother keeps that up for a few days, the whole dissapointment thing, maybe Lamonica will get a guilt feeling.

How did she react to the roaches? If she doesn't like them you can tell her she has to get rid of it, and make it all clean. And if she refuses then tell her that if she doesn't do anything, the roaches won't go away. If you refuse to do it for her, maybe she'll do it herself eventually. That is, if she dislikes the roaches.

What about the "If you won't take care of your own stuff, I wont either" approach? Make her take care of herself. Don't cook for her, tell her she has to get her own food, don't wash her clothes anymore, don't wake her up in the morning, to buy stuff for her anymore, don't allow her to call anymore with your phone, because it costs money, and tell her she can use one of those coin dispense phones on the streets etc. If you keep that up for a week or so, maybe she'll get sick of it eventually and learn how much you guys don't do for her. Maybe she'll respect it a bit more.

okay, maybe those are a bit harsh.. but it could work. I mean, I can't think of anything else. Forcing her to go to a shrink won't work either. But she sounds so messed up, it's sad she won't let anyone help her.

[silver_huskey]

Well we've tried some of that stuff, and to all of it she doesn't seem to care. Her attitude is always "I'm going to do what I want to do, and not going to listen to anyone." Until she can't stand being ignored anymore, then maybe she'll try slightly, but then backslide a week later. And Monday was horrible, she lied about my mom and me at her visit with her mom. Then her mom wanted her removed from the home, but the social worker was against it, since she knew Lamonica was lying. So far it's just been one drama filled period with her after another, and I hate drama. =p

But, we're trying to get her into therapy so she can talk about her problems, and get her into some after school programs so she can do something constructive with her time. Hopefully a combination of things will work. X_x