Did I get a new age whim?
So you've all probably been thinking that I've disappeared. You're all very wrong. The people I was haunting went and moved, and then new people showed up and well, they didn't tolerate the haunting so well. Damned exorcists
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As for as relationships go..and I'm probably the worst person to comment on them seeing as I have more platonic relationships then I've ever had sensual, ones I couldn't help but say something-give you my 2 cents.
I don't believe in soul mates in the case that one person is destined to be with one person. I think several people are destined to be with you and not all in the sensual way either. There are so many layers on every one person that a single person can not always 'satisfy' (and I use that term because 'mesh' and another word doesn't quite fit) hence the multi 'partnership' (by this I mean friends, relatives, lovers and so on').
However, if we do take on more then one partner.there is always some sort of an attachment formed because we are complex human beings so we have that stupid thing called feelings. Men claim to be free of guilt when it comes to having sex without being attached to someone and well I'm not male so I can't justify that claim. Although I am a woman and coming from a female perspective, yes I would be quite irritated and hurt if my partner went off and found another sensual relationship-it's the same reason people get jealous over 'platonic' male/female friendships.
Now there are instances where people are involved in 'open relationships' were as both partners are free and willing to date and have relationships with other people there by broadening the 'mates' they have. I'm not all that sure if it works because both partners have to be extremely open and ok with it.
Getting back to the question of mating for life-if you think about the evolutionary theory of mating it's basically mate, raise offspring..and then it differs. Males (in this theory) only want to ensure their offspring so multiple partners are a must. Females however have to pick and choose because they're investing more in the situation. This may seem a bit stereotypical but honestly, these are the facts and you learn them in basic anthropology courses.
If you're asking about the abstract idea of love then I really can't see myself getting into that because I've never been in love but I have loved.
We are an evolved species (for the most part) and there are always exceptions to this question. Anyhow, that's how I see it and yea...I gotta stop typing now.
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Also particularly interesting is the idea of people being destined to love multiple people (I would definetly agree with this).
Thank you so much for your insights!
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I honestly think we as humans have the capacity to love more then one person at a time. You can see this in situations where a person has to choose between two people over who to stay with.
No problem Sigmund. It was all very interesting.
Ha! Take that NYU degree!
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