Madcap Recap...
Last weekend was absolutely wonderful. We did not go to the water park. We *did* get all dressed up and went out for a fancy dinner. The rest of the weekend was spent just having quality time together. (Oh, and some fabric shopping. I got a bolt of 100% wool for prices that should have been illegal!)
We learn many things in retrospect. Years ago, I believed the theory that partners have to fight to have a healthy relationship. Now I know that is not true. When faced with issues, we cast aside anything that is truly no big deal, and we have conversations about what we feel is important. There is no yelling or crying or stomping out. There is normal volume, respect and a willingness to see the issue from one another's perspectives.
You can't go looking for a person to fill a void in your life. Love is when you realize that people in your life have filled voids you did not know you had. Bri "gets" me. Half of the time, we don't have full conversations vocally, because we are already on the same page. It is almost paranormal, I have to be honest, lol. He really inspires me to push myself to do things I have never done, and to challenge myself, creatively. He makes me laugh with his constant puns and its always an adventure when we are together. We make expeditions of grocery shopping, and find amazing things. Last weekend, he showed me this really cool set up; it was a display area for the Christmas village collections, but it was made to look like ice. It had arches you walked under and a seat which looked like an ice throne. It was just a really cool thing to stumble upon, but it was beautiful and I am so thankful for those moments where we find such beauty
Dej, on the other hand, helps keep me grounded. She has such a sweet and gentle nature, well, until someone threatens something she loves and then she gets all Mama Bear : ) She and I have some very deep conversations about religion and politics and human rights. And, even during the most serious, in depth conversations, we still giggle, just being together. Dej also has similiar physical issues, so she knows what I face every day, first hand. It is such a relief to have someone close that understands the obstacles I face. She is such an inspirational person!
So, I guess the point of this blog was really several thoughts I have had over the last week, thrown onto LJ. I truly feel blessed to have them in my life. I wish I had know, years ago, that healthy relationships can exist. Yes, they take some work, but if you respect your partners and truly love them, it is very worth it. No drama, no fighting, no threats. Just love, respect and trust. I like that.
We learn many things in retrospect. Years ago, I believed the theory that partners have to fight to have a healthy relationship. Now I know that is not true. When faced with issues, we cast aside anything that is truly no big deal, and we have conversations about what we feel is important. There is no yelling or crying or stomping out. There is normal volume, respect and a willingness to see the issue from one another's perspectives.
You can't go looking for a person to fill a void in your life. Love is when you realize that people in your life have filled voids you did not know you had. Bri "gets" me. Half of the time, we don't have full conversations vocally, because we are already on the same page. It is almost paranormal, I have to be honest, lol. He really inspires me to push myself to do things I have never done, and to challenge myself, creatively. He makes me laugh with his constant puns and its always an adventure when we are together. We make expeditions of grocery shopping, and find amazing things. Last weekend, he showed me this really cool set up; it was a display area for the Christmas village collections, but it was made to look like ice. It had arches you walked under and a seat which looked like an ice throne. It was just a really cool thing to stumble upon, but it was beautiful and I am so thankful for those moments where we find such beauty
Dej, on the other hand, helps keep me grounded. She has such a sweet and gentle nature, well, until someone threatens something she loves and then she gets all Mama Bear : ) She and I have some very deep conversations about religion and politics and human rights. And, even during the most serious, in depth conversations, we still giggle, just being together. Dej also has similiar physical issues, so she knows what I face every day, first hand. It is such a relief to have someone close that understands the obstacles I face. She is such an inspirational person!
So, I guess the point of this blog was really several thoughts I have had over the last week, thrown onto LJ. I truly feel blessed to have them in my life. I wish I had know, years ago, that healthy relationships can exist. Yes, they take some work, but if you respect your partners and truly love them, it is very worth it. No drama, no fighting, no threats. Just love, respect and trust. I like that.