that whole concept is mostly my experience. i've had at least a couple of opportunities to sleep with people who i actually wanted to but didn't. it even got to the point of sleeping in the same bed, but out of respect for them, the situation, and most importantly myself; i chose not to. i think that's where the girls are more likely to be flighty. i don't doubt most of the ones i'm close to don't surpass my males friends in affection and feeling, but they cover that up with a cold guarded exterior. inevitably it leads to them sleeping around, drinking, etc to deal with their problems. that's at least what i've observed in my relationships. it's possible that this common behavior is a reaction to my personality. i very rarely initiate any physical interaction, rather i'm always probing minds and hearts to find something real. this has everything to do with my lack of girlfriends. most people i know are so hard to deal with it, it makes anything sexual seem unbearable. i don't think it's the same as you necessarily, but it's close. i've called myself the gay best friend plenty of times because girls think i'm harmless. i do feel like i'm just occupying space sometimes. i guess that's just part of the job.
for the record, as much as i say no one ever wants me, plenty do. however, it's always a bad situation or some one i'm really really not attracted to or some one who'd just as well sleep with anyone else (slut!) or i'm just plain oblivious. either way, i'm sure it's the same with you.
anyways, i think guys and girls are pretty much the same. it just depends on the individual. it so happens i've dealt with those kinds of girls and you with those kinds of guys. they're everywhere. i just hate that i'm attracted to basketcases.
i think that's where the girls are more likely to be flighty. i don't doubt most of the ones i'm close to don't surpass my males friends in affection and feeling, but they cover that up with a cold guarded exterior. inevitably it leads to them sleeping around, drinking, etc to deal with their problems. that's at least what i've observed in my relationships.
it's possible that this common behavior is a reaction to my personality. i very rarely initiate any physical interaction, rather i'm always probing minds and hearts to find something real. this has everything to do with my lack of girlfriends. most people i know are so hard to deal with it, it makes anything sexual seem unbearable.
i don't think it's the same as you necessarily, but it's close. i've called myself the gay best friend plenty of times because girls think i'm harmless. i do feel like i'm just occupying space sometimes. i guess that's just part of the job.
for the record, as much as i say no one ever wants me, plenty do. however, it's always a bad situation or some one i'm really really not attracted to or some one who'd just as well sleep with anyone else (slut!) or i'm just plain oblivious. either way, i'm sure it's the same with you.
anyways, i think guys and girls are pretty much the same. it just depends on the individual. it so happens i've dealt with those kinds of girls and you with those kinds of guys. they're everywhere. i just hate that i'm attracted to basketcases.
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