Why Raise Someone One Way Then Act Another?
*points* So what's that all about? Well, we'll get to that. 1st of all, I wanna say that having a son who's so used to reading my face that he has learned the art of the subject change makes me smile.
Now, on to our drag and drop quote up there. See, yesterday Aunt Carroll was going on and on about Laurynn potty training and stuff. Mind you, before they started going to the breakfast/lunch program, I warned her that Laurynn was just now starting potty training so I don't see why it's a problem. Oh, and Laurynn's kinda, sorta spoiled so she cries to get her way. Now, all the kids used to do it (Shit, Mo still does it) so it doesn't bother me. I'm used to all their little "isms." I deal with Zyi-isms, Mo-isms, Laurynn-isms, and Kylee-isms on a day to day basis. More Zyi and Mo than the other two but you get my general point. Well, she said that it's not Mo's job to take Laurynn to the bathroom. I was like: "Why not?" She said because Kylee is Laurynn's quote "Actual sister." Now, I chose not to say anything but I did tell my sister (Leisha's in town) and Zech that it upsets me because she's the one who raised me in a world where you don't hafta be genetically linked to be family so I don't see where there's a difference in how I raise my four. As far as they're concerned, they are all sisters and brother and I really hate when people try to make them feel differently. She said that Mo made the comment "Is this what being a mom is like?" I went: "Shit" (Yes, I cursed in a church but by then I was getting angry) "I had to do it so she'll live." And I explained how Laurynn bites Kylee but she won't bite Mo so I can understand completely why Kylee wouldn't wanna take her to the bathroom. Now, back to Zyi'. Apparently Zyi can read my face from across a room cuz he immediately popped up clear outta nowhere and was like: "Look at what I made today." Practically shoved his craft in my face. Any other time, I woulda pointed out he was being rude but I allowed it because I knew what he was trying to do. (Plus that, he explained himself when we got home)
Now, as David pointed out, not everyone is gonna understand how are kids are being brought up. As he was saying this, Laurynn was building a LEGO whatever the heck on the edge of our bed. Guess who's running around looking for her? Mo. See, unlike most people, I have a realistic approach to my kids.
Mo makes comments when she's aggravated. So does Zyi. So does Kylee and everyone else in the free world. The thing you're supposed to do is ask them why they feel that way. Because that's what I do. I hold court with the kids all the time over some of the stuff they say. You have to cuz more times than not, it's said outta anger or irritation. And they're kids. They get aggravated with each other constantly. The #1 complaint kids have is that they're parents somehow forgot what it was like to be a kid. I do the best I can not to because I never want them to feel like I think I'm always right because sometimes I'm wrong and I have no problem telling them that.
Which is why Elizabeth is the one who usually has them. None of the crap they pull annoys her either cuz she overlooks it same as me.
Like I said, I understood the part where they should all help. My only issue was the "actual sister" part. I mean, in this house, they're all on the same level to me.
I just don't like when people try to box Laurynn and Kylee off as if they are different than Zyi and Mo. Everyone knows how I feel about the topic and even if you don't understand it, as a part of my life, I feel as if you should respect it.
Why do stuff like that?
*sighs*
Later