A Rant of Sorts
My little sister is almost sixteen. She has a child of her own, about two months old. Very cute child. Her boyfriend, almost 20. Weirded out yet? Yeah, I was too when I first found out. And then I was pissed. Now, I'm out right raging.
This idiotic man-boy started messing around with my sister when she was a couple months shy of 15. So he would have been 18, and she would have been 14. Age doesn't really bother me. It's really all about maturity. I mean, to a point. Obviously if some 30 year old is dating a fourteen year old, something is seriously fucked up. My sister, is not very mature. I mean, she's better know that she has a child, but she still has a lot of growing up to do. She's 16 duh. But the age thing isn't what I'm here to bitch about, it's the idiot who she's with. Dunno who's the bigger idiot though, him for just being him, or her for staying with him. You'll understand in a second.
So, Man-Boy is about 20, he is a pot-fiend, has a job that's only temporary, isn't around during the week, or on most weekends, and likes to bitch at my sister, a lot. Granted she bitches at him to, but hi, like I said, not even 16. That my friends, isn't even the best of it. This stupid little boy leaves my pregnant, 15 year old sister for another woman, while we're in another province, through text. We had originally thought that this woman was his ex-girlfriend, whom he'd been with for three years, and had a son with. Mildly understandable, if still detestable. A few months later, she takes him back. Dumbass
. Yesterday we find out that he left her, not for the aforementioned chick, but for some slut he'd met a few days after she had arrived in the province not our own. This chick knew he had a pregnant girlfriend. She still pursued him. and he let her! My naive little sister has not left him. She will not take my advice. I find it painful to watch her suffer through this "relationship" because she thinks it will change.
All of this brings me to the point of this post shitty relationships! You cannot change the guy/girl you are with. You can explain to them what you find wrong in the relationship, but unless they want to change, nothing will change. It sucks, I know. Get over it. Yes you love them, you may have a child with them. Get out now. I've seen the effect these relationships have on people. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for over a year. My mother was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship for 6 years. It. Does. Not. Stop. Save yourself years of pain, and hardship, and depression. Leave the fucker, cry for two weeks, or two months, move on and realize how much better you are without them. You can do it. Believe me, and believe in yourself. Do what's best for you, and if you have a child, your child. For the love of life. Only you can make your situation better. Stop making excuses, stop saying that "if only I can learn to do this, it'll get better", stop blaming yourself for their behaviour and leave.