I read something that resonated deeply
"When you understand that your feelings are triggered by what you think about an event and not by the event itself, you gain a measure of control. Although you cannot control the things (events) that happen to you, or change your feelings (after all, you feel the way you feel), you can change your thoughts. A change in thoughts often radically alters your feelings." Julie A. Ross and Judy Corcoran
This is profound. I have been dealing with family stuff for a few years and it has dredged up a lot of negative feelings in me. I recently had an epiphany and realized that I was only responsible for my feelings and the others are responsible for themselves. I have decided that I will take the high road and remain true to myself. I refuse to lower myself to the other's level. I feel lighter now and am now on the road to taking better care of myself.