Well, first of all, I'm wary of your numbers (3 out of 10 guys thinking of rape? I really don't think so). But i will give you 3 out of 10 making a comment of somekind, most defintly.
Anyway... I think you're muddying the waters a littl here. You've taken one fundamental human phsyiological concept (the orgasm) and personified it as a set of human social problems. This is the mistake here.
I think if we seperate these things we can arrive at a better conclusion. As a person, who I have se with ultimatly doesn't effect any one except me and who I had sex with. It's not anyone else's business.
And I don't buy any of this all sex is rape bullshit, because that's not helping women, it's hurting them. My having sex with a woman is not some obsesion, addiction, in my brain, to have an orgasm. It's something that we share, to a common goal of becoming connecting and taking part in possibly the only intense pleasure that isn't illegal right now... Firstly, not all sex is about orgasm, for men or women. It's a point along the line, often an important one, but it's not the be all and end all. Secondly, to call it an addiction is a misnomer, I think. An addiction is uncontrollable. I don't whip it out in public cause i need a fix. Doesn't happen.
So there you have it. I've said it before, and i'll say it again - it's my opinion that we can never have a hope of understanding something until two conditions are met - one, we've experianced it directly (if applicable) and two, we've had sufficent time since that experiance that we can now reflect on it from a different mindset, one of the future me, a differnt person than the past me.
Anyway... I think you're muddying the waters a littl here. You've taken one fundamental human phsyiological concept (the orgasm) and personified it as a set of human social problems. This is the mistake here.
I think if we seperate these things we can arrive at a better conclusion. As a person, who I have se with ultimatly doesn't effect any one except me and who I had sex with. It's not anyone else's business.
And I don't buy any of this all sex is rape bullshit, because that's not helping women, it's hurting them. My having sex with a woman is not some obsesion, addiction, in my brain, to have an orgasm. It's something that we share, to a common goal of becoming connecting and taking part in possibly the only intense pleasure that isn't illegal right now...
Firstly, not all sex is about orgasm, for men or women. It's a point along the line, often an important one, but it's not the be all and end all.
Secondly, to call it an addiction is a misnomer, I think. An addiction is uncontrollable. I don't whip it out in public cause i need a fix. Doesn't happen.
So there you have it. I've said it before, and i'll say it again - it's my opinion that we can never have a hope of understanding something until two conditions are met - one, we've experianced it directly (if applicable) and two, we've had sufficent time since that experiance that we can now reflect on it from a different mindset, one of the future me, a differnt person than the past me.
that's my two(dozen) cents.
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