#8 -- Kay
I’ve actually been dating a lot recently - perhaps the end of summer rush for people to settle into a relationship before winter comes? - but I haven’t been writing about them, even though I’d like to. This is my first fall as registrar at my school and it has been crazy busy. I didn’t really think about how much falls to the registrar, in terms of scheduling and course changes. Anyhow.
I had a date a couple of weeks ago with Kay. Though I’ve been on match.com on and off for years, I’ve never met anyone there. I enjoy surfing all of the pictures of women across the country. Santa Fe, of course, has very few people on at any time (despite our large lesbian community) and Kay lives in Albuquerque. But we did connect on match. She’s fairly recently (8 months) out of a long term relationship. On match we started to write to each other, short notes, almost every day. Her writing style is smart and funny, and I can totally be seduced by smart and funny email. I suggested that we should meet because I hate that feeling (that I have experienced so many times) of connecting through email and then having no chemistry in person. So we had date #1 a few weeks ago. We had dinner in Albuquerque at a cute Italian/pizza restaurant downtown. And afterwards we went for a walk in town. And then we had dessert at flying star. It was a very nice date, and a long date. I do think we had some chemistry. And that evening she wrote me an email saying that she had a great time and that she’d like to do it again. All good. And then nothing. I emailed her back after her “had a great time” email, in the style of our previous emails (playful and open-ended). But I didn’t hear from her that week. Eventually, she wrote that she’d been busy (heard that one before too), and she was going out of town for labor day, but she’d like to get together after she returned. Okay. So we had date #2 on Saturday night. (Once again in Albuquerque because she has a dog that needs to take medicine at night, so she couldn’t come up here. Why are there so many lesbians who have needy animals that keep them home?) Again it was a nice date. We went for a walk for about an hour on the bosque, and then went to dinner at flying star. She did say that if I wasn’t getting the response from her that I expected, that perhaps it was because she was just out of a long-term relationship and was trying to find her way. But I guess I am looking for a different response. I want to see her initial interest. I want email every day (they don’t have to be long). I want an occasional text. I want someone who shows interest in me. Do I tell her that, in hopes of generating some? Or do I let this thing go because I need someone to show some natural interest in me? I think the latter. The start of this thing had so much potential. She hasn’t emailed again, even though it was a great second date that went far too late. I doubt there will be a third.
I had a date a couple of weeks ago with Kay. Though I’ve been on match.com on and off for years, I’ve never met anyone there. I enjoy surfing all of the pictures of women across the country. Santa Fe, of course, has very few people on at any time (despite our large lesbian community) and Kay lives in Albuquerque. But we did connect on match. She’s fairly recently (8 months) out of a long term relationship. On match we started to write to each other, short notes, almost every day. Her writing style is smart and funny, and I can totally be seduced by smart and funny email. I suggested that we should meet because I hate that feeling (that I have experienced so many times) of connecting through email and then having no chemistry in person. So we had date #1 a few weeks ago. We had dinner in Albuquerque at a cute Italian/pizza restaurant downtown. And afterwards we went for a walk in town. And then we had dessert at flying star. It was a very nice date, and a long date. I do think we had some chemistry. And that evening she wrote me an email saying that she had a great time and that she’d like to do it again. All good. And then nothing. I emailed her back after her “had a great time” email, in the style of our previous emails (playful and open-ended). But I didn’t hear from her that week. Eventually, she wrote that she’d been busy (heard that one before too), and she was going out of town for labor day, but she’d like to get together after she returned. Okay. So we had date #2 on Saturday night. (Once again in Albuquerque because she has a dog that needs to take medicine at night, so she couldn’t come up here. Why are there so many lesbians who have needy animals that keep them home?) Again it was a nice date. We went for a walk for about an hour on the bosque, and then went to dinner at flying star. She did say that if I wasn’t getting the response from her that I expected, that perhaps it was because she was just out of a long-term relationship and was trying to find her way. But I guess I am looking for a different response. I want to see her initial interest. I want email every day (they don’t have to be long). I want an occasional text. I want someone who shows interest in me. Do I tell her that, in hopes of generating some? Or do I let this thing go because I need someone to show some natural interest in me? I think the latter. The start of this thing had so much potential. She hasn’t emailed again, even though it was a great second date that went far too late. I doubt there will be a third.