my issues with ken & mary (liz's parents) typed as though speaking to them...
my issues you ask? my issues begin with money...yes, i know you already said that if it's too expensive, move somewhere else, but that's not what we agreed on when we moved here from california. the original arrangement that all 3 of us remembers is that you said it would be $200/person, up to $600 and we could have a roommate for the extra room and that kenny wouldn't be paying rent because he'd only be there like a month and then he was being deployed. we even brought up the possibility that what if kenny weren't deployed, and it was agreed on that he would then pay also. next money issue...we have no idea what kenny's been telling you, and apparently it's a lot, but mary kept telling liz, when she'd actually call her, that she's been trying to get a hold of her but can't get through, no one answers, etc, etc, so all you've been getting is kenny's side of the story for everything. why didn't we call, you may ask, we didn't call because we figured you didn't want to hear us whining over the petty crap that was going and we felt that we could handle it like adults. i only ever remember kenny asking to see the bills once. we told him they were kept in the envelope slots on the desk in the living room, and that's where they're always kept. next money issue, and i'm very sad that this didn't register sooner, we were paying your start-up fees on the bills you started. not our responsibility. we will never benefit from them, it's not our names on the bills, not our responibility. last money issue, and i'm sure you'll defend him and ask why don't we think scott took the money, but in my mind, beyond a shadow of a doubt, kenny stole the missing $120 out of my purse. why? because the week before you guys ever got out to kansas kenny's biggest complaint was that he had no money. he was broke. then, as soon as you guys get out there, he's suddenly got the money to go out to eat with kaela, go to the movies with kaela, buy new dvds and cds, but yet, he had no money. why don't i think scott took the money? because scott had just given us his share of everything. why would he steal money from himself? all he would've had to done was say "hey, i don't have all of it right now, or i need to keep some out for this..." he wouldn't have had to steal it. what truly sealed it for me, though, was when we were packing to leave, kevin cleaned out his trunk, and there, buried, not just sitting in there, buried, was our, as kevin, liz and i's, piggy bank that we'd been saving change in since before we left california. we hadn't been able to find that piggy bank since about a week after everyone left and we'd moved into the house. the last place that either of the three of us knew we'd seen it, it was sitting on the floor right inside the doorway leading from the hallway. when we dumped it out, all the silver change was gone, all that was left was pennies. there was about $20 in silver in that piggy bank. other issues...kenny has no common courtesy. his loudness when others are trying to sleep. i understand where he gets the mentality of "my home i don't care" from, but we were all adults in the house and he could've been an adult about the situation and have the decency to allow other adults in the house to have a restful sleep before they had to go to work early the next morning. groceries, kenny would complain about the groceries and/or meals that were prepared, even after we'd ask him what did he want on the grocery list, what did he want to have for dinner, was there anything he wanted from the store, etc, etc. not cool. and as for paying for the groceries, everyone pitched in $50 towards groceries per trip. we shopped for groceries twice a month. and, unbeknownst to us, we were also feeding kenny's friends. they'd come home during lunch and raid for food. we didn't mind, we always told kenny he's welcome to have friends over, just let us know in advance so we could make sure there was enough food for everyone at dinner and murphy was told personally that there was an open door at the house for him anytime. so, that's not the issue. the issue was that kenny, out of the 5 or 6 grocery trips that were made (of which i'm only counting 4 or 5 for him since he was out in cali over thanksgiving) he only paid for one, the last one before we left. and then him questioning why kaela had to pay towards that trip was just irritating. i really wanted to look at him and ask him if he was stupid. the week before you guys came out, kenny laid on our bed with us, and i asked him "what does kaela like eat? what kinds of snacks does kaela like? does she like fresh fruits, junk food, what? so i know what kinds of stuff to include on the list so that she'll have things she likes, too." and then they ask why she had to help pay. next issue, safety, it seems to me that you, and kenny, were under the impression that we were living in white pickett fence suburbia, i don't care if we were or weren't, but for god's sake, lock the house up as best you can at night before you go to bed. the first things anyone breaking in would've seen to steal was ours! not locking the doors was irritating. and kenny leaving all the lights on and t.v. on at night if we came in late, even more annoying. or kenny just flat out leaving all his stuff going in his room, just as annoying. kevin's car, this is an issue that unfortunately we didn't see things on his vehicle until after we came home, as a matter of fact, one of the issues made us surprised we made it home with no incidents. while kevin was changing his brakes, he noticed that the front passenger tire had a flat spot and a chunk, down to the tread, missing out of the tire. we knew by this time that while kenny was driving kevin's car, that we let him use while his car was having it's fuel line issues, had spun kevin's car out. so that tire's completely wasted, needs to be replaced. on the other tire, a matching flat spot. it appears to us that when kenny spun the car, he spun it on the front passenger tire. scratches/dents, we found a couple on the roof edge by the back passenger side door. consideration for other peoples property, we heard from kenny's friends how they took kevin's armor out of his trunk and put it on and then proceeded to kick each other, in their boots! that armor may have only cost us a $100, and yeah, kevin may break it on the battlefield and need to repair it, but that's kevin doing it, not someone that has no right to even be playing in it. and yes, we lied about paying the bills before we left, but we didn't see any reason we weren't going to be able to pay that money to the bills as soon as we got home and were close to those that could help us. however, none of us could foresee kevin's mom losing her job just 3 days after we got home. we then decided that the money would better benefit us by helping his mom buy groceries and us gas. i began working the thursday after we returned and needed gas. we're sorry they turned stuff off, or threatened to turn stuff off, but we didn't know they'd do that. in california they'll just roll it onto the following month's bill. and to be honest, we don't want to pay that money back. the money we still owe kenny for those bills, we're putting towards buying kevin 2 new tires for his car, tires that kenny abused. other issues, how you treat liz. we saw it before we left and kevin saw it the night we were talking before you guys left to come back home at christmas. you disregard her as a viable opinion and you don't treat her like an adult. she could make a suggestion, make an argument, and it will be disregarded, blown off or just completely ignored. but someone else make the same suggestion or argument and it's considered, discussed. that's not right. you claimed that kaela was like a daughter to you, what about your own daughter? those are my issues.