or is your entire world just crashing down all around you?
things i've learned this year:
1. there's no secret to being happy all the time. quite frankly, it's impossible. it's just easier to accept that you're going to have some god-awful days, and your motivation on said days should be that eventually you'll have a mind-blowingly amazing one, and life will be good.
2. you're rarely- if ever- going to have a perfectly equal relationship with someone. chances are, you'll like them more than they like you, or vice-versa. but what's important to remember is that for every person you have who likes you more than you like them (you probably find them slightly annoying), you are probably that person to someone. therefore, treat people as you would like to be treated.
3. asking people if they're okay is an art. don't be offended if someone won't share; they have their reasons. i definitely feel the angst that many get when someone won't explain what's bugging them, but we deal.
4. don't expect all of your friends to get along. chances are, it's not gonna happen, and if it does- cherish the moment. however, it's not a bad thing- while conflict sucks, it's not the end of the world. it'll fix itself eventually.
5. things always have a way of working out in the end- just gotta stick it out through the shitty stuff first.
6. once in a while, it's good not to talk so much as just sit and listen. leaves less opportunity to be made fun of (sometimes)... plus, it makes your words worth more.
7. take a chance! you'll never know unless you try.
8. everything can't be someone else's fault...sometimes, as much as it sucks, it's our own. just own it and deal with it.
9. there's good in everyone- for some, it takes a little more digging; and for others it requires taking them away from or putting them with certain people. but it's there!
10. don't give up. just... don't do it. there is ALWAYS hope.
11. it's often too hard to say what you're feeling.. i mean, how do you speak a feeling, anyways? but someitmes...sometimes it's just better to not ruin the night and suffer a bit.
12. it doesn't take a boyfriend to break your heart. in fact, it's usually friends that do the most damage. they don't mean to, it just happens. and quite frankly, there's never a solution. just get used to people disappointing you. they mean well...usually.
13. you can't force yourself not to care. at least i can't ... i've tried, and i've failed miserably. i'm learning to accept that there's nothing i can do about it; i will always care about certain people and certain things, and as painful as it is, i can't fix it.
14. don't take everything so personally! everyone is not out to get you; accidents happen. it may or may not be about you, so don't jump directly to that conclusion.
15. people can't read minds. if someone is bugging you, tell them! it's not fair to get mad at them for doing something they didn't think bothered anyone.
16. you can't keep everyone you meet in your life forever. it's okay to let some people go... those who want to stay in your life will let you know.
17. nothing is ever equal. it's just the way it is.
18. sometimes, there's never a good answer. choose the best one (:
19. we all screw up, and that's okay! it's one of the only behaviors that can be called normal.
20. nothing is static; don't be afraid of change, try and embrace it! sure, it's scary, but think about all of the changes that have ended beautifully. (this is one of the the biggest ones for me; i don't deal well with change haha.)
21. spontaneous hugs can make almost anyone feel better.
22. nothing is ever truly gone forever as long as there's someone there to remember it.
23. no one is perfect. we've heard it a thousand times, but i often forget it, and i have a feeling i'm not alone. everyone has their shtick.
24. it will all work out eventually... everything happens for a reason.
25. everything will be okay. seriously!
26. breathe .. it's all good, man :)
fin.
1. there's no secret to being happy all the time. quite frankly, it's impossible. it's just easier to accept that you're going to have some god-awful days, and your motivation on said days should be that eventually you'll have a mind-blowingly amazing one, and life will be good.
2. you're rarely- if ever- going to have a perfectly equal relationship with someone. chances are, you'll like them more than they like you, or vice-versa. but what's important to remember is that for every person you have who likes you more than you like them (you probably find them slightly annoying), you are probably that person to someone. therefore, treat people as you would like to be treated.
3. asking people if they're okay is an art. don't be offended if someone won't share; they have their reasons. i definitely feel the angst that many get when someone won't explain what's bugging them, but we deal.
4. don't expect all of your friends to get along. chances are, it's not gonna happen, and if it does- cherish the moment. however, it's not a bad thing- while conflict sucks, it's not the end of the world. it'll fix itself eventually.
5. things always have a way of working out in the end- just gotta stick it out through the shitty stuff first.
6. once in a while, it's good not to talk so much as just sit and listen. leaves less opportunity to be made fun of (sometimes)... plus, it makes your words worth more.
7. take a chance! you'll never know unless you try.
8. everything can't be someone else's fault...sometimes, as much as it sucks, it's our own. just own it and deal with it.
9. there's good in everyone- for some, it takes a little more digging; and for others it requires taking them away from or putting them with certain people. but it's there!
10. don't give up. just... don't do it. there is ALWAYS hope.
11. it's often too hard to say what you're feeling.. i mean, how do you speak a feeling, anyways? but someitmes...sometimes it's just better to not ruin the night and suffer a bit.
12. it doesn't take a boyfriend to break your heart. in fact, it's usually friends that do the most damage. they don't mean to, it just happens. and quite frankly, there's never a solution. just get used to people disappointing you. they mean well...usually.
13. you can't force yourself not to care. at least i can't ... i've tried, and i've failed miserably. i'm learning to accept that there's nothing i can do about it; i will always care about certain people and certain things, and as painful as it is, i can't fix it.
14. don't take everything so personally! everyone is not out to get you; accidents happen. it may or may not be about you, so don't jump directly to that conclusion.
15. people can't read minds. if someone is bugging you, tell them! it's not fair to get mad at them for doing something they didn't think bothered anyone.
16. you can't keep everyone you meet in your life forever. it's okay to let some people go... those who want to stay in your life will let you know.
17. nothing is ever equal. it's just the way it is.
18. sometimes, there's never a good answer. choose the best one (:
19. we all screw up, and that's okay! it's one of the only behaviors that can be called normal.
20. nothing is static; don't be afraid of change, try and embrace it! sure, it's scary, but think about all of the changes that have ended beautifully. (this is one of the the biggest ones for me; i don't deal well with change haha.)
21. spontaneous hugs can make almost anyone feel better.
22. nothing is ever truly gone forever as long as there's someone there to remember it.
23. no one is perfect. we've heard it a thousand times, but i often forget it, and i have a feeling i'm not alone. everyone has their shtick.
24. it will all work out eventually... everything happens for a reason.
25. everything will be okay. seriously!
26. breathe .. it's all good, man :)
fin.