Communication
So theres this person I know. Special to me in so many ways, and as similar to me as anyone has ever been before. The person in question really pisses me off, I mean hardcore. I say very mean things about them and tell people when they ask that the person is a cunt. But when I talk to this person I can never seem to really say anything mean other
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I'm going to quote a mutual friend of ours and I'll let you guess whom it is but what he has to say is important. Friend: I would have to say that it takes a long time for people to change; I know it did for me. But I always had this friend that I could turn to and when I was with this person the worst I would ever do around them was drink. Even when I hit rock bottom, to the point where I was incapacitated due to drugs and drinking they were there for me... If it hadn’t been for that person... it just would have been different. For a lot of people all it takes is for someone who genuinely cares and believes in them.
2. "Too many times the rules have been broken..."
Honestly have there ever been "rules" you set for yourself and have broken? So when you are dealing with this person who is a lot like you (which I would say hardheadedness would be up there if you two are similar at all) you are going to have to expect some degree of resistance.
3. "I want to pretend that this person no longer exists. But I can't. No matter what I try I just can't do it. And then I realize that I don't really want to stop knowing this person. I just want to help them."
What you feel would be described exactly as what a bodhisattva feels. They have the ability to walk away from all the suffering of the world, they are at the doorway of freedom, just one step and they cross the threshold. But they don’t, for deep down they feel a great urge to turn around and descend back into they depths that they fought so hard to escape in order to free others. Is that not compassion, is that not what makes us divine, is that not love? Are you willing to go back for her? Are you willing to strive into the depths of what you have escaped from to pull her out to safety? Are you willing to bare that burden? Or shall you cross over and shut the door behind you, to continue your journey. This is the decision you must make. Decisiveness one-way or the other, for if you stay on the threshold for much long you will be torn in two.
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