filters for my friends
I'm chronically worried about offending people. It's part of my constant state of being, and the reason for this post. I'm presently setting up a filter for my friends. I need to emphasize it's 'for' the benefit of my f-list, not to exclude you, but to 'shield' you from that which I might write that will either offend or bore the living daylights out of you.
I originally came onto lj through a sci-fi fandom, where I met many people of different backgrounds whose lives I truly enjoy hearing about. That's something I don't want to mess with one bit. But, in searching other communities and interests on lj I found other people who I have much in common with, too. People whose journals are inspiring and people I'm looking forward to getting to know. And some people who journal about things I've thought about writing about but never do. Some of those people are Christian, some share an interest in spirituality in general.
I'm currently setting up a custom friends group for people who I know would be interested in the 'other side' of my life. If I met you through a fandom, I'm not including you in that group, because I feel it's safer to assume you're not interested. If I met you on ljchristians, then I'm putting you in that group. If we've specifically discussed such things and found common ground, I'm including you, too. For those of you who fit none of the categories I mentioned, or anyone who thinks I've got them in the wrong place please pm me or comment, and I'll fix that.
If you don't know me well enough, and don't know where the heck you want to be,
I'm not interested in preaching at anyone, at least not here in my journal. I have preached in church in the past and likely will again. I've worked in pastoral ministries, in pastoral counseling of sexual abuse victims, and in the standard preaching and teaching stuff. But, my journal isn't my venue for that sort of thing. My life is.
I'm not into trying to be your friend in the hopes of making you think or believe like me. My journal is a place where I can be me, and I respect my f-lists desire for the same thing.
Until now I have felt somewhat stilted in sharing my thoughts because I know many on my f-list wouldn't care to hear it, and that's o.k.. Writing fanfiction was my first taste of true freedom in writing. It was wonderful to be able to let creativity flow under another name and share it with people of common interests. It was so much fun, and now I'm hoping to be able to launch into something like that with the matters that are closer to my heart.
I've written much in the way of spiritual poetry and the like, now buried in journals and never shared. I have a play that I've wanted to write for ten years, that I might yet brave putting words to. My deeper struggles, my wrestlings with life, might also go here. But, it'll all be about life, love, spirituality from my small non-authoritative and often struggling point of view.
I originally came onto lj through a sci-fi fandom, where I met many people of different backgrounds whose lives I truly enjoy hearing about. That's something I don't want to mess with one bit. But, in searching other communities and interests on lj I found other people who I have much in common with, too. People whose journals are inspiring and people I'm looking forward to getting to know. And some people who journal about things I've thought about writing about but never do. Some of those people are Christian, some share an interest in spirituality in general.
I'm currently setting up a custom friends group for people who I know would be interested in the 'other side' of my life. If I met you through a fandom, I'm not including you in that group, because I feel it's safer to assume you're not interested. If I met you on ljchristians, then I'm putting you in that group. If we've specifically discussed such things and found common ground, I'm including you, too. For those of you who fit none of the categories I mentioned, or anyone who thinks I've got them in the wrong place please pm me or comment, and I'll fix that.
If you don't know me well enough, and don't know where the heck you want to be,
I'm not interested in preaching at anyone, at least not here in my journal. I have preached in church in the past and likely will again. I've worked in pastoral ministries, in pastoral counseling of sexual abuse victims, and in the standard preaching and teaching stuff. But, my journal isn't my venue for that sort of thing. My life is.
I'm not into trying to be your friend in the hopes of making you think or believe like me. My journal is a place where I can be me, and I respect my f-lists desire for the same thing.
Until now I have felt somewhat stilted in sharing my thoughts because I know many on my f-list wouldn't care to hear it, and that's o.k.. Writing fanfiction was my first taste of true freedom in writing. It was wonderful to be able to let creativity flow under another name and share it with people of common interests. It was so much fun, and now I'm hoping to be able to launch into something like that with the matters that are closer to my heart.
I've written much in the way of spiritual poetry and the like, now buried in journals and never shared. I have a play that I've wanted to write for ten years, that I might yet brave putting words to. My deeper struggles, my wrestlings with life, might also go here. But, it'll all be about life, love, spirituality from my small non-authoritative and often struggling point of view.