Comments | scrwtape: My oldest Uncle died

scrwtape

My oldest Uncle died

Jun 30, 2007 01:45

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weofodthignen June 30 2007, 09:41:35 UTC

You mean no one will tell you what he died of, or you mean you weren't told about the funeral until after the fact? Either way would be a pity . . . I hope you were able to know him while he was alive, and will remember him now . . . despite his faithfulness to the Baptist Church.

My condolences.

M

Clarification scrwtape June 30 2007, 11:34:58 UTC

Meaning, I was disowned by my father and the rest of my southern baptist family followed suite.

I found this out when I was doing my monthly "google myself" thing.

I would have never known otherwise, I chalk it up to the Gods wanting me to know and "prompting" me to check jut my last name.

illuviel June 30 2007, 15:47:58 UTC

My condolences.

scrwtape June 30 2007, 23:29:39 UTC

Thanks!

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scrwtape June 30 2007, 23:29:15 UTC

Thanks.

lyssandri June 30 2007, 16:33:35 UTC

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Even if you weren't terribly close, I know it can still hurt, especially if no one thought to tell you!

{{{HUGS}}}

Kriselda

Clarification 2 scrwtape June 30 2007, 23:28:55 UTC

It's not that they wouldn't think to tell me. It's because I'm not longer defined or allowed to participate in my father's family.

That's what ties me all up. Stupid ignorant small country minds pushed me out because their religion, at least they think, tells them I'm something horrible and they don't want that around them.

They are not even looking at me as the nephew, son, cousin. They are looking at me as something that has nothing to do with family and all about their prejudices and in their mind, *I* made this choice and they are doing nothing but reacting. That this is my fault for choosing to be gay.

Had I simply stayed the good straight nephew, son, cousin I would still be in the families grace.

Re: Clarification 2 lyssandri July 1 2007, 02:00:58 UTC

Oh good grief! What a bunch of lunkheads :( That's just so unacceptable and idiotic! I'm really sorry, Rod - you don't deserve to be treated that way at ALL

heathenhulagirl June 30 2007, 16:49:54 UTC

I'm so sorry. I understand(from a personal perspective) your pain.

Complex situation scrwtape June 30 2007, 23:22:58 UTC

I was not close to this Uncle, but to have someone in my family die and then knowing that I would never be informed by that family because I've been disowned for simply existing ... is ... very frustrating.

I'm not grieving this man per se, though he never had a bad word or did a bad thing to me.

I'm more "all caught up" in the fact that such stupidity as who I love has estranged me from my family.

You know what family means to a Heathen, and I have been denied. To top it all off ... I know that my Grandmother would be furious at the family over this.

Re: Complex situation heathenhulagirl June 30 2007, 23:31:28 UTC

I do understand from a personal perspective. several years ago my dad disowned me. he is now trying to play games.. but.. I have been excluded from all family functions etc. so yes.. I have not been informed of similar things. until after the fact. more than once. and I was close to some of the relatives involved. I will never get over some of these things. and it is very complex as you say. so yes. I do understand. It is ... not excusable. I'm sorry for what you have had to go through.