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[scorpio_alice]

I don’t know if I’m trying to find meaning where there isn’t any, just because I need it. But I have been reading the latest Dresden Files, and I feel for Molly, feel like Molly. I don’t know if I’m taking my latest experiences too far or just using her as a model, or even justification for the road I’m choosing to walk down now.

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[pacificpikachu]

*Hugs* It was him, not you, who was the problem there. You did your best and gave it your all, and he just dropped it in an incredibly strange and painful way. I can't understand what went on in his brain, to be honest--to go from one extreme to the other like that. I don't believe it has anything to with you, though, and everything to do with him. I know you made an effort and did your best, and invested a lot.

I'm sure it'll take you a while to remember, but you are just as strong, capable, and wonderful as you were before him. Heartbreak just takes time to get over, especially when you were messed with like that.

Please, try to take the blame off of yourself, though. Relationships take two people, and only one person doing their best unfortunately can't make the relationship as a whole work. He made a decision, for whatever messed up unknown reason, to drop it, and if you ask me it seems like that was probably what would have happened no matter who the person was.

Don't give up on relationships forever, but I think you definitely need time to recover, think through it all, and see yourself as valuable again. You definitely are, and romantic relationships are not a sole determinant of value as a person by any stretch of the imagination.

Let me know if you ever want to talk, I'd be happy to listen, or just distract you, or whatever. Hey, we should go see Arrietty soon, it's playing at Sutton Cinemas! Any evening would work for me.

Anyway, you'll pull through this. It'll take some time, but you are a wonderful and valuable person, and he can't take that away from you no matter what. He's gone from your life anyway, now it's just time to gradually phase him out emotionally and psychologically, too. He doesn't deserve the space he's taking up in your brain and thoughts.