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Okay, so typically i dont read forwards, and if i do read them i almost NEVER forward them. But i guess i think all girls should read this one.
Meghan
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
they
look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts.
If
you have daughters, sisters, cousins, etc. please share this
with
them.
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle.
They
are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun,
braid or
other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely
to go after
a
woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common
targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look
for women
whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors
around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their
cell phone, searching through
their
purse or doing other activities while
walking because they are off and
can
be easily overpowered.
4) The
time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
the early
morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted
from/attacked at is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking
lots/garages. Number
three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these
men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and
quickly move her to a
second location where they don't have to worry
about
getting
caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up
any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because
it only takes a
minute or two for them to realize that going after you
isn't worth it
because it will be time consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on
women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a
distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these
guys
you're not worth it.
10) Several defense
mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following
behind you on a
street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in
the face and ask them a question, like what
time
is it, or make general
small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out
here
or we're in for a bad
winter. Now you've seen their face and could
identify them in a lineup, you
lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your
hands in front of
you
and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists
this man talked to said
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not
be
afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for
an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of
it
and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE
PEPPER SPRAY
and
holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone
grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
by
outsmarting
them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch
the attacker
either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in
the
upper inner
thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told
him
she used the
underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her
and
was so upset
she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the
guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as
you
can stand
it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know
from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it
is
extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make
him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor
is
that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
Start
causing
trouble, & he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts
his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and
bend them back as far
as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
them as possible. The
instructor did it to me without using much
pressure,
and I ended up on my
knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always
hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with
you if you can and if you see any
odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with
your instincts. You may feel a
little
silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if the guy really was
trouble.
AFTER YOU READ THIS, FORWARD
THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE
STUFF BUT IT COULD SAVE HER
LIFE.
Meghan
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
they
look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts.
If
you have daughters, sisters, cousins, etc. please share this
with
them.
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle.
They
are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun,
braid or
other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely
to go after
a
woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common
targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look
for women
whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors
around to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their
cell phone, searching through
their
purse or doing other activities while
walking because they are off and
can
be easily overpowered.
4) The
time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
the early
morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted
from/attacked at is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking
lots/garages. Number
three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these
men is that they are looking to grab a woman
and
quickly move her to a
second location where they don't have to worry
about
getting
caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up
any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because
it only takes a
minute or two for them to realize that going after you
isn't worth it
because it will be time consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on
women who have umbrellas, or
other similar objects that can be used from a
distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these
guys
you're not worth it.
10) Several defense
mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following
behind you on a
street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in
the face and ask them a question, like what
time
is it, or make general
small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out
here
or we're in for a bad
winter. Now you've seen their face and could
identify them in a lineup, you
lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your
hands in front of
you
and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists
this man talked to said
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not
be
afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for
an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of
it
and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE
PEPPER SPRAY
and
holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone
grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can
by
outsmarting
them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch
the attacker
either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in
the
upper inner
thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told
him
she used the
underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her
and
was so upset
she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the
guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as
you
can stand
it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know
from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it
is
extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and
make
him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor
is
that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
Start
causing
trouble, & he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts
his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and
bend them back as far
as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
them as possible. The
instructor did it to me without using much
pressure,
and I ended up on my
knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always
hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with
you if you can and if you see any
odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with
your instincts. You may feel a
little
silly at the time, but you'd feel
much worse if the guy really was
trouble.
AFTER YOU READ THIS, FORWARD
THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE
STUFF BUT IT COULD SAVE HER
LIFE.