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Over the past few months we have been loosing contact with one of our best friends. Not by choice on our part and I would like to think that it was not intentional on her end either. She has not been around to help or share with any of our planning and memories. I was really surprised that she didn’t come around at all. She works the graveyard shift and doesn’t really do much anymore. I know first hand how hard that shift is, but I also know that life still goes on. Her two best friends are getting married and she doesn’t even know what we are wearing. We use to be so close, we shared everything between the three of us and now that she has been absent for so long that she is so out of touch. In the past this has happened and we always reach out to her or give her the benefit of the doubt, but I’m tired of making excuses for her. She needs to be an adult know that friendship is a two-way street. I’m supposed to be getting a phone call from her today. We’ll see what happens.
Also, today marks two months and one day since I last talk to my mom and I still have not heard anything from her. I have slowly managed to push that to the back of head. It is always very present, but at least I am able to focus on the more positive aspects of my upcoming union with T. My cousin in still dealing with her “house issues” so I have very little hope for her coming either. No elaboration is welcomed on this subject.
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On a very different note, last night we had dinner with T’s boss and her husband, whom also happen to be our landlords (she is also a very close friend of T’s and I am slowly starting to get to know her a little more). I had a really nice time. They are both truly happy for us and it is obvious that she is beaming with excitement. Ever since we learned about the awful truth about our previous location she has really stepped up to bat for us and has done it with our best interest at hand. I liked having dinner with two very interesting characters that I don’t really know personally. I have heard a lot about them from the stories that T shares with me, but I enjoyed experiencing them first hand. Another positive from last night is that I got to see how very much in love a couple can be after 20 plus years of marriage. Coming from a background where emotions are not really expressed, I was soaking up every minute of their interactions with us and between them.
V has been a very positive influence and role model in T’s life. She came into T’s life at a time when T needed some direction. Four years later, they have really grown a lot closer and respect each other for the strong women that they are. It makes me happy to know that V cares so deeply for T and she is more than just a boss/landlord to her, she takes on a mentor/mothering role. Ok, I will stop gushing about V and M……for now. J
I have also opened up at work a lot more than what I normally feel happy doing and it has introduced a new friendship to me. I was basically pulled out of my bubble, but it has made me feel more comfortable at work and with myself.
Yay for newfound friendships and getting to know new people!!!