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[satan_sayz]

Satan-
I don't know how to say this, so I'm just gonna go ahead and say it. I'm dating a white dude. He's great but I'm ashamed to bring him around to my peoples. Also- he looks like Powder. Great movie, huh? http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001218/
One of my friends said that to truly

Comments

[vietnamita99]

it bothers me when people don't think about race, and class, and how these all play into who we choose to love.

but it also really bothers me when people feel like they can judge another person (and usually it's an asian woman)'s choices in something as personal as who they love.

i've met some pretty down white people who thought a lot about race and privilege, and didn't just think but took actions and made concrete choices to fight institutional and individual racism.

would the thought of me dating an upper-class person of color also make satan sick? i know race and class are linked, but just wondering.

[miwon]

i think ...it's not heroin should ask him or herself where their resistance is coming from. if it is fear about what other people will think than that does not seem like a good reason to find issue with the relationship. either way, if the person is strugglin with internal contradictions and those internal contradictions cannot be resolved, it will have a very strong impact on the relationship long term and the person's ability to be fully open to it. it also doesn't seem fair to the other person who in any relationship, whoever they are, deserves to have unconditional love and acceptance. i don't think there's any real easy answer. in any relationship, there will be issues so it's a matter of which issues the person wants to deal with, issues of whiteness, or issues of whatever baggage peeps of color come with, and you know we all come with mad issues.

I think we got ourselves a new advice columnist

[dsm301_81]

Wow! You're so much smarter (and more helpful, and better looking) than satan! So miwon, I'm gonna re-route my questions to you from now on.
Here goes:

Dear Miwon,
Although I have a general disdain for Christianity and organized religion as a whole, I find myself dating hardcore Christians again and again. While it might be fun at first, these relationships inevitably end over differences in "core values". That's christ-speak for "you don't believe in jesus". I don't know why I keep falling into the same pattern. Am I just a glutton for punishment? Am I on some level desperately seeking salvation? Do I get turned on by the challenge and then turned off when the chase is over?
Please help.

~Wanted: single hot atheist

Re: I think we got ourselves a new advice columnist

[miwon]

oh! just saw this addressed to me...

dear wanted:

the first question that pops up in my head is, why do hard core christians date you in the first place? i assume you are upfront about your lack of religion? maybe they think they can convert you. do you think you can convert them? i say, if you can't accept a person unconditionally, as they are, including their religious beliefs, then don't date them. i think we go into relationships thinking we can change other people. people do change, but only if they want to, not cuz someone tells them they should.

on the other hand, maybe you are choosing people you know you aren't fundamentally compatible with b/c you don't want to really be in a relationship...and it's an easy out...

hmm...what does satan think?

Re: I think we got ourselves a new advice columnist

[miwon]

oh and by the way, i couldn't possibly be better looking than satan!