Oh, M. You are the weakest link.
So, J went and did his HIV test, like M was pushing for. M failed to respond to J all day long, until finally telling him he wasn't going to come over, because he needed a break from all the BS. (What? The BS he caused?) As J and I were sitting around, and discussing the likelihood that J's ex is planning to try to disrupt and/or destroy J's life -- since everything I've ever heard about the guy from anybody seems to lean toward him being that type -- M ultimately posted on Facebook:
"God has been talking to me so much recently... He's told me a lot of things... I'm glad though my relationship with him can be rocky, I know he's got he hand on my life... Time to do for me what his plans are. I'm probably going to disappear for a while. He's telling me to take a break from everything and everyone and get myself together. I have a long life ahead of me and I need to use the gift he gave to me. I'm sorry for those of you whom I may hurt in the next few weeks. I'm doing this for me, and the mighty one. God Bless and goodnight."
Facebook's location system indicates that he was nowhere near at home, either. What (or who) was he doing? Eventually he told J that he was breaking it off (again) and he just really wanted them to be friends forever and not risk ruining that with a relationship they both know will just fail. (Now, there's also the question of whether M is acknowledging in any way that he, himself is the reason that all of his relationships fail... but somehow I doubt this.) I don't think J is so much broken this time. He kinda saw this coming -- and that sort of makes me wonder why he agreed to go back in the first place -- but I guess he just felt the need to give him a second chance, but the second was the only other one he'd give.
I guess it opens the door for L, who is already planning ways to try and make things better. I'm for it, though. In fact, although L didn't give me any specific details of his "plan" for tomorrow, I have a pretty good idea what he's thinking about, and I gave him a little tidbit that would probably enhance it. I think that he'll be using it. J said something about L not being the most attractive guy, but he's doing so many right things. Bingo. J said before that "looks ain't everything", so he'd better take that to heart, because as far as I can see -- and L isn't "ugly" in the first place -- the things that L would do for him, compared to M, should make him the much more attractive person. So we'll see how that goes.
And then there's attention-whore M. The last thing he wrote on Facebook was:
"Deactivating my Facebook tonight... Inbox your number to me to keep in contact with me... You have an hour."
...five hours ago