The Sanity Faerie's Primer on Guys

[sanityfaerie]

There's this strange thing that happens in a lot of relationships. Very subtle people and very unsubtle people get together all the time, and hilarity ensues. The subtle people can't understand why the unsubtle people aren't reacting right, and the unsubtle people (we'll call them "guys") don't understand much of *anything*. Thus, Sanityfaerie's

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[zathrus]

I read this a while back, and found myself nodding in amused agreement. I reread it just now, and found myself thinking, Wow, this totally matches my future sister-in-law's description of my brother! (My first brother, Ed, who is getting married a week from Saturday, not my second brother, Douglas, who remains.... well, your description of yourself as an incoming college freshman probably applies very well to him, except that I'm not sure it's strong enough, and he's entering his senior year of college in the fall.) Mandy does the most amazing job I've ever seen of dealing with the Guy-ness of her intended husband -- largely, I think, through really understanding herself incredibly well, and being able to recognize when she's wanting something from him that she hasn't articulated yet. I agree in principle that it's totally unfair for a woman to expect her guy to pick up on the differences between "Nothing's wrong, I'm just tired" (literally true) and "Nothing's wrong, I'm just tired" (I'm tired because a whole bunch of little things ARE wrong and I want you to pry them out of me so I can vent and feel better) and the like, and yet I sometimes find myself doing it inadvertently. My emotions are really obvious to me -- how can they not be to everyone else? ;)

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