Quite OOC
Hey, Sages. [Oh my god, the mun lives! ...Hi, I'm sorry, I've been really caught-up busy with things. ^^; Hope to come back around here soon..]
What are you supposed to do when someone you know is being rather manipulative, but you don't think they realize it, or mean harm by it?
I've a male friend in college who, rather unfortunately, has been smitten with me since all through last semester. This proves very frustrating for me, since I don't have any want or need to date, never have, and having someone constantly trying to hold your hand when you hang out is obnoxious when you don't want it. =_= He's gotten past that point, but still. In his defense, he is a nice guy, but yeah... he's done some very obnoxious things in the past, like shown up at my house without permission [despite me telling him that he couldn't show up] and playing the cards so he 'had' to stay the night at our house to help us move in the morning. [He'd gotten eye stuff done that day, knew he'd wind up unable to drive, but drove to our house anyway. He told me later that he'd sort of expected/planned for this. No harm technically done, but the lying? No, no, I don't tolerate that.]
In the past week, I'd been waiting to meet up with my friends, and the place I was waiting to meet them was rather unfamiliar to me, so I was on edge. I'm a very scrawny little thing, and my family has instilled the fear of 'omfg u r a little girl u r going to be targeted by all the creepy people out thar' into me for years; so needless to say, when he came catapulting out of nowhere and tackled me from behind, he nearly got a faceful of fist. As it was, I only yelled at him to never 'effing do that again, and I don't usually yell or swear or get that angry. What can I say, I was startled and scared for my safety. I apologized profusely afterwards, and he said it was alright, but...
And on Sunday, I lost track of time and blew him off. Not entirely intentional, but not entirely not. He's got every right to be mad at me for that, and I don't expect him to be happy with me. I know I was in the wrong there. BUT he was texting me on my phone last night, and I apologized the best I could, and y'know what he said?
"Well, if you wanted to make it up to me, give me a half decent kiss. I'll forgive and forget it all, *yelling at me to F-off, breaking the eba thing, everything*..."
...I can't believe he's still trying for that after all this time. I was ready to get quite angry at him last night, but opted to just sleep and reply later when I could think straight. I suppose kissing really isn't that big a deal to most teenagers, but my first kiss? It's gonna be with someone I'm interested in, thanks. And it won't be gotten through any sort of guilt trips or whatnot. I had been planning on treating him to dinner or something to make up for things, but this? I'm not sure how to react to this.
I also don't know if I'm over-reacting or not. I'm very wary of anything I percieve to be guilt-tripping or manipulation, based on things that've gone on family-wise in the past. So I don't know if my perception is skewed or not. I don't think he's doing this with the knowledge that it's coming off that way, but he's pulled a few guilt-trip like things in the past, and it really grates my nerves.
I made this too lengthy. But I'd love to hear your guys' thoughts on this, and any advice you can give. I am a confused little Jawz-mun, that I am.
What are you supposed to do when someone you know is being rather manipulative, but you don't think they realize it, or mean harm by it?
I've a male friend in college who, rather unfortunately, has been smitten with me since all through last semester. This proves very frustrating for me, since I don't have any want or need to date, never have, and having someone constantly trying to hold your hand when you hang out is obnoxious when you don't want it. =_= He's gotten past that point, but still. In his defense, he is a nice guy, but yeah... he's done some very obnoxious things in the past, like shown up at my house without permission [despite me telling him that he couldn't show up] and playing the cards so he 'had' to stay the night at our house to help us move in the morning. [He'd gotten eye stuff done that day, knew he'd wind up unable to drive, but drove to our house anyway. He told me later that he'd sort of expected/planned for this. No harm technically done, but the lying? No, no, I don't tolerate that.]
In the past week, I'd been waiting to meet up with my friends, and the place I was waiting to meet them was rather unfamiliar to me, so I was on edge. I'm a very scrawny little thing, and my family has instilled the fear of 'omfg u r a little girl u r going to be targeted by all the creepy people out thar' into me for years; so needless to say, when he came catapulting out of nowhere and tackled me from behind, he nearly got a faceful of fist. As it was, I only yelled at him to never 'effing do that again, and I don't usually yell or swear or get that angry. What can I say, I was startled and scared for my safety. I apologized profusely afterwards, and he said it was alright, but...
And on Sunday, I lost track of time and blew him off. Not entirely intentional, but not entirely not. He's got every right to be mad at me for that, and I don't expect him to be happy with me. I know I was in the wrong there. BUT he was texting me on my phone last night, and I apologized the best I could, and y'know what he said?
"Well, if you wanted to make it up to me, give me a half decent kiss. I'll forgive and forget it all, *yelling at me to F-off, breaking the eba thing, everything*..."
...I can't believe he's still trying for that after all this time. I was ready to get quite angry at him last night, but opted to just sleep and reply later when I could think straight. I suppose kissing really isn't that big a deal to most teenagers, but my first kiss? It's gonna be with someone I'm interested in, thanks. And it won't be gotten through any sort of guilt trips or whatnot. I had been planning on treating him to dinner or something to make up for things, but this? I'm not sure how to react to this.
I also don't know if I'm over-reacting or not. I'm very wary of anything I percieve to be guilt-tripping or manipulation, based on things that've gone on family-wise in the past. So I don't know if my perception is skewed or not. I don't think he's doing this with the knowledge that it's coming off that way, but he's pulled a few guilt-trip like things in the past, and it really grates my nerves.
I made this too lengthy. But I'd love to hear your guys' thoughts on this, and any advice you can give. I am a confused little Jawz-mun, that I am.