the truth about relationships
Why are we so afraid to show emotion? Well, the most likely reason is because our parents taught us not to cry when we were little because something didn't go our way or whatever. Now days, the only time it's ok to cry is when you're in an extremely serious amount of pain, but sometimes even that's frowned upon. And guys are always taught not to cry over anything. But all that we were taught as kids is seriously fucking up our relationships as we get older. Think about it. Do you really know what your friends, boyfriend, girlfriend feels for you? Probably not, because they've never told you, or you never thought to ask. But now that I've brought it up, you're probably wondering, "What do they feel for me? Do they like me? How much? Do they trust me? Do they love me?" etc. You sit here wondering these things but you're afraid to ask. Maybe they'll tell you something you really don't want to hear. But quit being pessimistic for a moment and consider the fact that they may have something to tell you that would make you the happiest person alive. Or maybe you really do need to hear it, even if it's bad news.
In relationships with a significant other, you and they both know that you like each other enough to want to hang out, make out, sleep with, etc. But then there are those people that you date that you actually fall in love with. But everyone is so afraid to let their girlfriend/boyfriend know how much they feel for them. No one wants to tell their girl/boyfriend "I love you" only to be rejected or criticized for feeling that way about them. So what do we do? We keep out mouths shut. We usually wait for the other person to say it first, but what if they're waiting for you to say it first? That just fucks everything up. If you love each other, you usually spend the time to work through your problems as a couple instead of just breaking up over it. But if you don't know that the other person loves you and you love them, and you have a problem that you think it would be easier to just break up with them then try to solve it, you just lost someone you really truly cared about. Why do we put ourselves through that?
I'll tell you right now that the world would be a lot better place if people just let even some of their emotions show. You don't have to sit there and ramble on about how much you love somebody or hate somebody, but if they knew how you felt they might just say how they feel about you. And if you tell them you hate them and never want to deal with them again, they might just leave you alone. But we don't do that. We keep everything to ourselves for fear of being criticized or rejected or teased or smacked across the face or whatever. You can't keep every feeling you have that you don't think people will accept bottled up. It builds up after a while and then you go fucking crazy at an inopportune moment and you just fucked everything up. Look what you did. THEN you're get bitched at because of what you did WHEN you did it.
And another thing...people should just learn to accept that someone feels something for them. Like, let's say (cuz this has happened to me) some one you're dating tells you they love you, but you don't love them in return. You shouldn't break up with them over it. I mean, it's not like you hate them or anything, so there's no reason for you to not be with them. You don't have to say "I love you too" if that's not how you feel, but at least be nice to them about it. Don't go and fuck everything up with them just because they had the balls to tell you how they really feel, because trust me, it took a LOT of guts to say what they just said to you. And let's just say that they tell you they love you and you actually love them in return, just fucking say it! Don't think you're going to have some kind of control over them just because they expressed their feelings and you didn't. That's fucking bullshit. They're the ones that have the control, because they're the ones who put their neck out on the line. They may not be in control of you, but they're more in control of themselves than you are.
And one more thing, don't tell someone you love them when you really don't. That's just fucked up. You just made someone's day by telling them a lie. Shame on you! Be a man, be a woman, and be fucking honest about what you feel. Don't try to dumb it down or make it look pretty for somebody else because you think that's what they want. Trust me, they don't want it. Everyone just wants the truth, so give it to them
In relationships with a significant other, you and they both know that you like each other enough to want to hang out, make out, sleep with, etc. But then there are those people that you date that you actually fall in love with. But everyone is so afraid to let their girlfriend/boyfriend know how much they feel for them. No one wants to tell their girl/boyfriend "I love you" only to be rejected or criticized for feeling that way about them. So what do we do? We keep out mouths shut. We usually wait for the other person to say it first, but what if they're waiting for you to say it first? That just fucks everything up. If you love each other, you usually spend the time to work through your problems as a couple instead of just breaking up over it. But if you don't know that the other person loves you and you love them, and you have a problem that you think it would be easier to just break up with them then try to solve it, you just lost someone you really truly cared about. Why do we put ourselves through that?
I'll tell you right now that the world would be a lot better place if people just let even some of their emotions show. You don't have to sit there and ramble on about how much you love somebody or hate somebody, but if they knew how you felt they might just say how they feel about you. And if you tell them you hate them and never want to deal with them again, they might just leave you alone. But we don't do that. We keep everything to ourselves for fear of being criticized or rejected or teased or smacked across the face or whatever. You can't keep every feeling you have that you don't think people will accept bottled up. It builds up after a while and then you go fucking crazy at an inopportune moment and you just fucked everything up. Look what you did. THEN you're get bitched at because of what you did WHEN you did it.
And another thing...people should just learn to accept that someone feels something for them. Like, let's say (cuz this has happened to me) some one you're dating tells you they love you, but you don't love them in return. You shouldn't break up with them over it. I mean, it's not like you hate them or anything, so there's no reason for you to not be with them. You don't have to say "I love you too" if that's not how you feel, but at least be nice to them about it. Don't go and fuck everything up with them just because they had the balls to tell you how they really feel, because trust me, it took a LOT of guts to say what they just said to you. And let's just say that they tell you they love you and you actually love them in return, just fucking say it! Don't think you're going to have some kind of control over them just because they expressed their feelings and you didn't. That's fucking bullshit. They're the ones that have the control, because they're the ones who put their neck out on the line. They may not be in control of you, but they're more in control of themselves than you are.
And one more thing, don't tell someone you love them when you really don't. That's just fucked up. You just made someone's day by telling them a lie. Shame on you! Be a man, be a woman, and be fucking honest about what you feel. Don't try to dumb it down or make it look pretty for somebody else because you think that's what they want. Trust me, they don't want it. Everyone just wants the truth, so give it to them