Dammit LJ can you post a reply or NOT?!
Dearest Monica,
Though your quote is profound; it is one of those that goes in the "easier said than done" pile. Because I sure don't rejoice when I've lost in something. Maybe that's just the way I've been raised but second best has never been good enough.
My original question was for people to tell me why they relate to Barack Obama without using a qualifier. CJ, so far, is the only person to do that and I didn't bite his head off.
As for my friend's list, I don't actively find people to put on my friend's list; in fact, I barely read my own friend's list. When LJ came out it was an online journal that I could write my thoughts into and if people wanted to read them, so be it. But I was not going to tailor what I said because someone might not like it (Hence the rules I have). I don't use my f'list to connect, I use it as a way to peer into my friend's lives. But if someone wants to rant about me I let them do so. If it's a problem I talk to them personally about it, not through the internet. But it is their right (as it is mine) to write about whatever they want in their own journal.
Unfortunately Monica, in my life, everything does have to be about me. Because, well, it's MY life. I have never had the luxury of being able to fall back on someone or to let my life go so I can focus on others. If I don't take care of myself, or look out for me, then I might as well just commit the bad things that will happen to myself. Maybe that's an understanding that comes with motherhood and when I have kids an understanding I will develop, but at this stage of the game it just can't happen.
I have only made one other person my sole priority and unfortunately it made her worse and now she is gone. And yes, I do blame myself for being so weak willed at that point in my life because maybe if I had been stronger and demanded more from her then she would still be here, and even a better person.
But even if I sound bitter and angry about this election, it's just a glimpse of how I have been treated when a democrat talks about George W. Bush. So why is it okay for democrats to rant and rave about republicans but not the other way around? Why is it that people can bitch and moan about Bush but I can't about Obama? Because he's "The first black president"? Please. The Bushes were the second Father and Son to be president in history (First was Adams, Jefferson, Quincy-Adams then they were Bush, Clinton, Bush), but nobody spoke of how historic that was. So answer me, how is that fair?
With open ears,
Jeannie
Though your quote is profound; it is one of those that goes in the "easier said than done" pile. Because I sure don't rejoice when I've lost in something. Maybe that's just the way I've been raised but second best has never been good enough.
My original question was for people to tell me why they relate to Barack Obama without using a qualifier. CJ, so far, is the only person to do that and I didn't bite his head off.
As for my friend's list, I don't actively find people to put on my friend's list; in fact, I barely read my own friend's list. When LJ came out it was an online journal that I could write my thoughts into and if people wanted to read them, so be it. But I was not going to tailor what I said because someone might not like it (Hence the rules I have). I don't use my f'list to connect, I use it as a way to peer into my friend's lives. But if someone wants to rant about me I let them do so. If it's a problem I talk to them personally about it, not through the internet. But it is their right (as it is mine) to write about whatever they want in their own journal.
Unfortunately Monica, in my life, everything does have to be about me. Because, well, it's MY life. I have never had the luxury of being able to fall back on someone or to let my life go so I can focus on others. If I don't take care of myself, or look out for me, then I might as well just commit the bad things that will happen to myself. Maybe that's an understanding that comes with motherhood and when I have kids an understanding I will develop, but at this stage of the game it just can't happen.
I have only made one other person my sole priority and unfortunately it made her worse and now she is gone. And yes, I do blame myself for being so weak willed at that point in my life because maybe if I had been stronger and demanded more from her then she would still be here, and even a better person.
But even if I sound bitter and angry about this election, it's just a glimpse of how I have been treated when a democrat talks about George W. Bush. So why is it okay for democrats to rant and rave about republicans but not the other way around? Why is it that people can bitch and moan about Bush but I can't about Obama? Because he's "The first black president"? Please. The Bushes were the second Father and Son to be president in history (First was Adams, Jefferson, Quincy-Adams then they were Bush, Clinton, Bush), but nobody spoke of how historic that was. So answer me, how is that fair?
With open ears,
Jeannie